My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 months, shes 22
and I'm 21. As she's staying in hostel (just started), she
will come my house and stayover every weekend (fri night
to sunday evening). I used to wanting to meet her as much as
possible by meeting her under her block or nearby shopping
centre but she refused, saying it's troublesome to wash
clothes that wore for afew hours just to meet me (yeah, she does
all the washing herself). So I have to agree with meeting her only
on weekends.
Being with her for so long, I know what her priority is. Family
(I understand this) > Friends > Bf. She's ok with not meeting
me for over 1 week and postpone our meeting just to meet her
friends. (Although not ok for me). In the end, I also have to agree
with her.
Now heres the big problem (it's big to me), she always take and
seldom give. Over the 10months, i feel like i have always been the
1 giving. I cook for her for the first few monthly anniversaries
(she did nth but eat and of course diff food/cuisine everytime),
prepared her a surprise valentine gift with decorations (she did
nth, only receive and no gift for me or anything) and a special day
afew days ago, i cook for her again (I stopped cooking for afew
months after my last cooking for her. and yes, she did nth again).
As for the valentine's gift I gave her, she put at my house since
valentine till now. Her reasons were no place no put at her hse. I
helped her do her things/work whenever she asked or have problem
with it. When I said no, she will get unhappy and all sorts, in the
end I have to help her.
Recently I asked her to help me do something (i'm independent,
don't really need to ask people for help unless needed), she
refused to. I asked afew more times, she refused all the way and
tried to change subject. I'm really disappointed and angry with
her. Shes those "the more you want her do, the more she refuses.
the more you don't want her do, the more she wanna do". She likes
to play mind games too. Don do, she will go act crying, wanna go
home etc.
Should I leave this girl for good? Yes, I'm happy with her when
we didn't have any issue. But these problems has been going on for
very long time. I tried to talk to her about it, she gave me
attitude and said she is like this.
P.S: Sorry for making you all read essay!!