Is she trying to play hard to get? Increase competition?

Disman SG

it is call no heart no tears

only give me to enjoy life

troublemaker2005 SG

when u r successful , we gals will throw ourselve at your successfulness, not you.

when u go bankrupt, we gals will throw you far far away. However, if there is a gal who still want to be with you, you dun mind going bankrupt

got pink ic rich or poor girls also want to be with you. power of the sg citizenshipe

Yach SG

There is this girl, who is my classmate at school. I grew to like her. During recess I take opportunity to try to chit chat with her. Recently there is this other guy, who always go around and mix with the girls. He give this girl, I like, a lot of attention; he is very helpful, like to help the girls carry book. One day, I ask her if she would be interested to discuss homework with me, she said yes. But then, we never follow through, because she never brought it up and me, just to shy to continue. But this guy, when we were in the class, he said he is going back home and wanted to escort her back home. To my surprise, she said "yes". I was there and heard everything.

What should I do? Should I also pursue her? But I don't want to make a scene. I don't want to fight this guy for her hand. Is she trying to make us both compete for her? If this is true, I just don't feel good about it because I don't feel it is genuine. I want to be with someone, I like and she like me too. Not somebody who look at relationship like a "sports".

So what should I do?

Then you should ask her for her opinion.

Make things clear once and for all so you do not need to make any more wild guesses.

She agreed to discuss hw alone with you, but on the other hand agreed to be escorted by another guy home. Too confusing to predict anything, just ask her.

jojobeach SG

So what should I do?

"Nice" girls no need "create" competition.

"Nice" girls will have several suitors everywhere she goes.

"Nice" girls no need ask men to do things, men will pro-actively try to impress them.

Nice girls get to "pick" from the crop.

You are hoping to have a nice girl throw you a pity bone.

Guys like you.. only get left-overs.

Dr Language SG

"Nice" girls no need "create" competition.

"Nice" girls will have several suitors everywhere she goes.

"Nice" girls no need ask men to do things, men will pro-actively try to impress them.

Nice girls get to "pick" from the crop.

You are hoping to have a nice girl throw you a pity bone.

Guys like you.. only get left-overs.

I do not agree wif your opinion. There are good girls and not very good girls. I have met girls who want me to chase after them, until so little progress, but I have also met girls who like me so much that we just match so perfectly - I don't have to work so hard, just one phone call, and we both become bf/gf.

Question is: do you want to chase an exhibitionist? or do you want to chase someone who likes you?

The first is a waste of time because she is not interested in you. She just want to draw you in to chase after her to increase her market value.

The second is priceless. Because she will swoon all over you, and all you have to do is to make a phone call. The rest...you leave it to fate. Most of my girlfriends fall in this category...I only go after those who are interested in me.

jojobeach SG

Question is: do you want to chase an exhibitionist? or do you want to chase someone who likes you?

The first is a waste of time because she is not interested in you. She just want to draw you in to chase after her to increase her market value.

"Nice" is subjective.

Some people like Nissan, Toyota, Honda .. because of low maintenance and value for money.

Some people prefers BMWs, Mercedes, Lexus.. because of prestige, comfort and luxury. They are prepared to pay the high price and high maintenance cost.

All cars are "nice", depending on the type of buyers.

You like low competition and low maintenance girls.. TS may have something else in mind.

All I am sayin is this... the amount of effort commensurates with the quality of that person.

Our "perceived" self-worth is/are based on what society/culture dictates to be more or less desirable.

The girl TS likes already showed interest, too bad, TS is too chicken shit to take up on her que.She ain't gonna sit around waiting for any guy to "accept" her. Since she sees no respond from TS.. she'll simply move on.

Just as you "go" after girls who are interested in you... nothing is gonna happen if you don't do anything. Take two hands to clap you see.

Apparently, you have never met anyone you "TRULY" wants. Hopefully when you do.. she will not be someone outside your own marriage.

In TS's case.. she ain't playing hard to get...

IMO... TS is the one playing hard to get.

Dr Language SG

"Nice" is subjective.

Some people like Nissan, Toyota, Honda .. because of low maintenance and value for money.

Some people prefers BMWs, Mercedes, Lexus.. because of prestige, comfort and luxury. They are prepared to pay the high price and high maintenance cost.

All cars are "nice", depending on the type of buyers.

You like low competition and low maintenance girls.. TS may have something else in mind.

All I am sayin is this... the amount of effort commensurates with the quality of that person.

Our "perceived" self-worth is/are based on what society/culture dictates to be more or less desirable.

Just as you "go" after girls who are interested in you... nothing is gonna happen if you don't do anything. Take two hands to clap you see.

Apparently, you have never met anyone you "TRULY" wants. Hopefully when you do.. she will not be someone outside your own marriage.

In TS's case.. she ain't playing hard to get...

IMO... TS is the one playing hard to get.

I used to be good at courting girls at school. I've come across many who just want to be chased after. However, after some time, I felt the relationship is not surreal. The relationship is not have strong foundations. Now I have matured, I instead seek more serious relationships that is build up from friendships.

I somehow don't think the girl is really interested in TS. She looks like she wants TS to go after her and she wants to make it look so revealing for everybody to see. If she really likes TS, she would give him serious thought and consideration, not playing hard to get. I think if TS go out in the open to be pursue her, she is going to make TS beat around the bush with no credible results. In the end, she just feel better about herself, her market value up at TS's expense.

Sometimes even when pretty chio bu really really like the guy (of course he is financially stable, hansom, etc, etc), she would give him a lot of cues and make it more easier to go after her. If the pretty chio bu not very like the guy, she just place him under WIP and make it a lot more harder to chase after her, without rejecting him outrightly, as this help boost her market value and also there are other reasons such as maybe she doesn't want to hurt his feelings or maybe she want more guys to chase after her.

Over the years, I changed my approach. Instead, I go after the ladies who truly like me for who I am. How? Usually it be someone whom I befriended. We build up our friendship from there. And then when the feeling is strong enuf, we agree to move on our relationship to more serious one.

mancha SG

TS is giving an account of what is going on in his head.

What is going on in the head of the girl, is that of a girl in a class. She is on her own.

TS is just one of the boys in her class. Nothing special.

Its just that TS is over excited by ordinary happenings in a class, and start imagining and blowing things up.

Nothing wrong with that, except that every idea must be followed by action. Otherwise the idea is just a dream.

angel7030 SG

Dr, when u finally agreed to move on to a more serious one, you can book my newly renovated motel, Min Min Motel at joo chiat. Hope u get more serious in the years to come.

troublemaker2005 SG

scarli the girl not nice 1. please this thread fails w/o pics.

Disman SG

my experience

if a gals is interested in u, she will purposely doll up and appear intentionally and unintentionally in front of u

if u notice and see her, she fly up the sky

if she heck care, some gals will be disappointed. others will be pissed off

Gerberad SG

my experience

if a gals is interested in u, she will purposely doll up and appear intentionally and unintentionally in front of u

if u notice and see her, she fly up the sky

if she heck care, some gals will be disappointed. others will be pissed off

not only doll up la, sometimes act ke lian and trying to gain your sympathy and pity..

anything they can do to get the guy's attention and foster closer relationship with him.

jojobeach SG

I think the problem with your past failures are due to maturity in the girls you chased after.

Your reluctance to accept failures, prompts you to take the safer route... via your "friends pool". While you up your success rate this way, you are also taking a bigger risk of losing your other friends if the relationship does not work out.

Typically I don't date within my "friend pool". If a guy falls under "friend" category.. it's very much because there was no chemistry between us.

I'm not saying you are wrong, just saying the safest route only ensures less chance of failing.. you are also missing out on better potential mates out there.

IMO. You're settling within a safe zone. After a while, you'd be looking outside for greener pastures.

For young people like you, don't be afraid to be adventurous. Trying and failing is part of the learning process, you will eventually learn to discern who's genuine and who's playing you.

Besides, there's a reason why you like a girl.. so go live it.

Itedino SG

So easy say yes ah. wah lao bo jio. Ask her to my home downstar. She sure Yes. Den on the way go my house cos i want to use toilet. She sure follow and say YES. Den ask her to follow you to the bed cos you just bought a new mattress and the design. Just say ask for comment. She say YES. Den ask her to lie down and at the same time very hot also. Help her unbutton. Den close the curtain and fuck her. Make sure it is dark.

EASY right.

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