Hello BleezeB,
I sympathize with your plight, and I understand that these
unrequited feelings can be very excruciating for you. Given the
nature of the many years you have held this candle for her, and how
you have confessed before and with her knowing that, and you still
managing to be friends, is indeed a admirable feat of both
perseverance and devotion!
If you're open to my humble opinions or suggestions, here's what i
kindly suggest! ;)
1) Given the many years you know her, how well do you know her? how
much does she confide in you? Knowing her beyond a general
friendship level would allow you good insights as to the chances
you may stand/may not stand for this situation.
2) Are you aware of any person she takes interest in? Any
crush/candle that she holds up for a particular person? It would be
good to know what you are up against (in a manner of speaking) and
in doing so know what characteristics and qualities she looks for
in a partner.
3) As yet, given the nature of this predicament, i would recommend
against making any hasty moves yet, without fully knowing where you
stand, because taking the dive and asking at this stage without
prior-preparation emotionally or cautious weighing of the odds, you
may be crushed and hurt by the answer she may give.
I suggest first weighing out the options and knowing what you're
gonna get into, before acting on it, be it taking the dive and
asking, or slowly working your way and earning her love and
trust.
4) Talk to your friends and people close to you that you trust, you
will realize how important family, friends and loved ones can be by
providing you the support, listening ear, wise council and comfort
for times like these.
All in all, do weigh your options and find out as much as you can
before deciding a path to take on. There is no right or wrong way
/method of winning over the one you love, though in every case it
is dependent on what the characteristic of the person is, so do
consider carefully!
I do sincerely wish you all the best in this endeavor, and i take
off my hat to you for your dedication and loyalty to this someone
you love. She must be a real kindred spirit for you to gravitate to
her for so long, and she sure is one blessed person to have someone
hold onto her for 7 years! So good luck mate!
Regards
Raziel
yeah thx ! to me she is the best