Here is how the story goes. Miss B is an
old colleague of mine and she has decided to match make me with her
friend, Miss A. Miss B tells me that Miss A is still single. Miss A
is 3 years younger than me, I am in my early 30s. Miss B ask me to
take Miss A to my church on Sunday service as Miss A is keen to go
visit church. However, Miss A is not a Christian but has an open
mind to Christianity. Miss A lives in Johor but is a PR in
Singapore and works in Singapore. Miss A travels daily through the
causeway to get to work to Tanjung Pagar. Miss drives to
work.
Because Miss A wanted to attend my church,
I was keen to help her. But at the same time I was careful not to
turn it into a date because she is not a Christian but I do want to
get to know her better. So I felt that we should be friends first.
This neutral zone is safer and don’t risk any form of
misunderstandings.
On the first Sunday service, I called Miss
A and ask her if she is keen to come visit my church. She said yes
and she was excited. So I agreed to drive up and cross the border
into Johor and then come back to Singapore where my church is. The
journey was far and long because her house is 40km away. I needed
GPS to locate her house. Then I pick her up and during the drive,
she was so chatty and easy to conversate with. During the Sunday
service, she ask me a lot of question about Christianity, I was
happy to answer her. After service, I gave her a ride back to
Johor. During the ride, I inform her that I was giving her a
general introduction to the church, how to get there and where to
park, brief history, bla, bla. Since she drives, I inform her that
the next round, she could drive down to church and if she needed
somebody to accompany her or a friend, she could call me and I be
glad to accompany her. Then her whole face went black and she
became unhappy. When I drop her off at her house, she never said a
word of thanks to me and left. I thought I never see her
again.
The next week, she called me to ask me to
accompany her to Sunday service. I inform her to come 10:00 am
sharp because if we are late, most of the seats would be taken.
This time she came 10:35am. She was late and we had to sit
upstairs. This time she wasn’t too keen to listen to the Pastor
delivering his sermon, instead she was playing with her Iphone.
Then a guy came and sat next to us. She started talking to him, not
bothered to listen to the Pastor delivering his sermon. She told me
that he is her ex colleague and he regularly attends this church.
Before the service could finish, she hastily left 20 minutes before
it ended, leaving me and the guy. I was asking myself, why does she
need my help to take her to church when she could have ask this guy
instead. I then tried to make conversation with this guy, but he
was rude, he ignored me and went the opposite direction when the
service ended.
Then there was a bowling tournament
organized by the youth at my church. I make an invitation to her.
This time she gladly accepted it. So on the day of the church
bowling tournament, we decided to have lunch together. This time
she turn out to be quite chatty and very easy to talk to. She
turned out to be an easy person to talk to. After lunch, as a
gentleman, I paid the bill. This was not a very high class
restaurant, just a mediocre one because I didn’t want to turn it
into a “date”. I just wanted a more friend to friend setting. I
wanted to get to know her better without starting any form of
pursuit. I want to know if we are compatible. I’ve seen guys play
the role playing game of chasing after girls, just no point for me,
because its just not genuine. I prefer friendship
first.
After that we played bowling and some
church games until it was 11pm. So since I invited her, I can’t
very well let her go to her car alone. As a gentleman, I escorted
her to her car parked in the basement. But she forgot where she
parked her car. Some we took 30 minutes to find her car and finally
we found it, and after she got into her car, I bid her
farewell.
Then its been a few weeks. Some sad things
happen within my extended family, my grandmother past away. After
the funeral, I was feeling a bit down. As I was about to attend
Saturday service, then I got a text from Miss A, asking me to
accompany her to church again on Sunday. So I decided to postpone
my church service to Sunday, just to accompany
her.
As I was on my way to church, she text me,
telling me to go in first as she was going to be late. I wasn’t
amused with her “reverse psychology” because the church is a mega
church with 5,000 people attending. So if I go in first, how is she
going to go in and find me? Some more I could have gone for
Saturday service instead and can sit with my friends at church.
Instead, now I have to go to church sitting alone? So I text back
to her to let her know that I will wait for her. But she answered
back sarcastically, and told me since I wanted to wait, she will be
late lo. She text me again and told me to go in first and she’ll
find me. Sigh, this time I really go in but was locked out of
church because it was communion ceremony going on. So I waited
until communion was over, and they reopen the doors. Then she
appeared. She made me missed communion and offering. I was so
unhappy.
We then sat together. This time she played
with her Iphone again, not interested to listen to the Pastor
deliver his sermon. Then she told me that she had to leave early
again. So we both left when the pastor halfway delivering his
sermon. Only two people stood up and left among 5,000 people
listening intently during the service. We stood out like a sore
thumb.
As we were on our way out, she told me that
today was mother’s day and ask me if I was celebrating. I told her
that my whole family is not celebrating as we are in mourning
because our granny just passed away. She continued to say that she
is going to celebrate mother’s day with her family, never even
bothering to express any form of condolences to me. I was surprised
at her rudeness.
Then as I was about to escort her to her
car, she said she had to go to the toilet and told me not to wait
for her. Another sulk from her.
I just tried at every chance to be nice to
her and to get to know her better. But its her sulking and she is
not punctual, always come late. I said to myself if she is not
Christian, its still ok, maybe her character is good. But as I see
now, we are not even compatible and she irritates
me.
I don’t know. What do you think? I don’t
think this is going to work out. I think me and Miss A should just
be friends.