I need some advice on this issue, as i am not able to catch
guy's mind.
I knew this guy via online platform around August 2009 after my
broke-up. Find it nice chatting with him, so gave him my msn add
when he asked for it, we have been chatting on msn since then and
later on exchanged hp number. Ever since then, we have been
chatting on msn and sms, he's the one who initiates to sms or chat
on msn most of the time. We chat about anything from work to
friends and him telling me when's his mother going for operation,
what kind of operation etc. He even told me that he tried applying
a new flat with his mom but did not manage to get it, if manage to
get new flat then probably no need to apply for new flat when want
to get married. (fyi he's the only child).
After communicating via sms n msn for about 1.5yrs, he smsed me
asking if i am free on V.day. My reply was :" aint u working night
shift?" He forgotten about that and asked again if I wud be his
Valentine on 13 Feb. Before the actual meet-up, he asked if im
interested to watch a comedy movie, i agreed since i've not watched
that before and also asked about my preference for dinner. We stay
quite far from each other, yet he drove and pick me up from my
house. I was kind of surprised that he made the advanced
reservations for dinner etc. We had an enjoyable time during that
few hours, no problems in communication. He gave me bear+a bouquet
of lilies (my fav flower)+card before i alighted. That was kind of
a surprise for me, as i couldn't remember that i ever told him that
i liked lilies. He unfastened his seat belt wanting to send me up,
but i told him i can go up myself as it's very late and no carpark
lots so better not take e risk to leave the car like that. He told
me to drop him a msg when im home and i did so. About 30-40mins
later, he msged me that he has reached home too.
We've been out several times and he always insisted on paying
the bills when i wanted to go on dutch as i felt uneasy for him to
pay all the time. I asked him out on his birthday for dinner and
told him it's a birthday treat from me so do not fight with me over
the bill.We went for movie after that, and he paid for that again.
No matter if he's the one or i am the one who initiates the date,
he always insists on fetching and sending me home and msg him once
im home and he does the same. We sms everyday, and there's at least
1 sms from him asking "how's my day, etc" or a good night sms from
him everyday without fail even though he's busy at work.
Lately, we went IT fair and the place is really very crowded, he
tends to place his hand on my back or waist guiding me to another
place, whenever if he walks in front of me, he will stop and see if
im behind him, or walk behind me with his hand placed on my waist
gently. He remembers whatever i wanted to buy, whereby personally
have forgotten 1 or 2 items. We went for dinner and decided to
catch a movie since it's still early. I was already wearing
cardigan from morning and yet my palms are still cold in the
cinema, i had no choice but to keep rubbing my hands or sit on both
hands during the show. He asked if I'm still cold, then moved his
hands over, found my hand and interlocked. He let go when my hands
were not that cold anymore and we never hold hands after that.
Before i alight frm his car, he reminded me that i've to take
tonics or see chinese physician as it's not healthy to have cold
hands and feets everyday.
Is it normal that we do not chat on the phone at all? He's doing
shift work, so it's kind of difficult to chat on the phone
either. Guess probably the only time we communicate over the
phone was him calling me when he reached my plc. Sometimes he will
ask for a good night kiss over sms, or ending smses with Muacks and
calling me dear in his smses. These occurs more after we met up.
Sometimes i wonder, does he do this to other girls as well.. Is he
kind of interested in me or just flirting around? I am kind of a
retard when it comes to relationship issues, that's why i've such
qns.
Very detailed post :)
I am no love guru but reading through your post i think that guy
is definitely interested in you due to the fact that he
1) Initiates conversations mostly, no matter through what
means.
2) Shares his personal issues with you.
2) Pays bills for you and fetch you home despite not
requesting.
3) Shows care and concern.
However it is still up to yourself to find out what exactly he
is interested in. He might be interested in a long term
relationship, but he may also be only interested in sex.
You need to find out what exactly he is interested in you
for in other words.
As for not communicating through phone calls, personally i think
it is normal for your case since after all, he mostly initiates
conversations with you and already going out together.
