I happened to get into a sexual relationship with a guy I know.
He says that he likes me, and he has liked me for a while. Over
time, as we spent more time together, I began to grow feelings for
him. There was a time when he asked me for pictures of me in my
underwear during the period that I liked him a lot. So I gave it to
him (without any facial features). After that, he started asking
for a video. At that point, my feelings for him were very strong,
so I also gave that to him. I confessed and told him that I liked
him, and started pushing for a relationship with him.
But he started asking for threesomes with my friends, and to
wants me to have sex with strangers. When I refused to, he said
that he would trade my pics and video to others for sex. When I
said I wouldn't ask for threesomes with my friends, he said that he
would just get them anyway, no matter what. Sometimes he also said
that he would rape me, or my friends, or to get someone else to
rape me.
During this period of time, I also discovered that I can't hold
a conversation with him. Many things that he likes to talk about is
sex. Each conversation that I try to start would eventually turn to
sex, even though I try to hold it back. Every conversation that he
starts would be with "What colour is your underwear"/ "What colour
is your inside". And he slept with my friend, and treated her
better than he treated me, doing things for her that he never did
for me.
When I tried to end this whole thing, he will say that I can't
end it with him, because he will destroy me if I do. Or destroy my
friends.
I discovered that he has no intentions of committing to a
relationship, even though he knew that I liked him. However,
throughout this whole time, he has never once told me clearly that
he doesn't want to get into a relationship. I felt that he was just
stringing me along.
Is this considered dating violence? What should I do? I still
don't want to hurt him or anyone else.
