I visited her at her hometown near Ipoh
during the CNY period. Was there for 4 days.
She lives in a modest single storey house
with her parents and her 11 year-old daughter. Her father is
suffering from late stage of dementia and doesn’t know how to take
care of himself anymore. Her aging and frail mother takes care of
her father and her daughter. Her daughter is very smart according
to her mother but very naughty and is a bit out of
control.
Her parents and daughter don’t know about
her real job in Singapore. They thought she do office works. She is
the only bread winner of the family as both her parents can’t work
anymore and have no other income. Her father used to be a gambler
and gambled away all his money and much of his other properties,
including their house. He still owed the loan sharks tens of
thousands till now. The house they are staying now belongs to her
brother who had passed away 2 years ago in a traffic
accident.
Now I could see for myself that she doesn’t
live in luxury. Most of her income is used to support her parents
and daughter, pay for the outstanding house loan and pay for his
father’s debt. She told me that due to her low qualification (she
didn’t finish her secondary school), she can’t earn what she is
earning now elsewhere. So she has to continue to work for the time
being. She also knows that my salary alone of just $3000 is not
enough to support both of us and her family. She has not much
choice.
She also admitted that my friends still
book her for sex once a week and they paid well. She charges
between $150 to $250 for sex each session. She
has paid sex with 8-9 men each week. Some are regular customers,
some not.
She said she just want to be honest with me
by telling me all that and said that it’s up to me whether I can
accept her or not. I told her it hurts knowing all those things but
I was willing to give our relationship a try….
Ouch....brother....I can feel your pain and your
dilemma.....
I have an opinion....
My opinion is basically like this......
I think you can know and can imagine the kind of difficulties
that you will have if you have a relationship with this woman, now
my question to you is....why ?
In my humble opinion, one should not try to "help" the other
person in a relationship. A relationship should be healthy,
wholesome, constructive, positive.
Now if you enter this relationship, and you want to do "good" ,
you want to do "love conquers all", then you will carry a burden.
You are shouldering something. You are carrying something, some
complication.
I think you will be unhappy and you will get burnt out,
consciously or subconsciously.
So my question to you is.....have you thought about this
properly ?
If you just wanna follow your heart and "love conquers all" , I
think you are behaving like some 17-year old teenager who doesnt
understand the world yet. You can use your heart but also must use
your head.
Conclusion = break up.
Btw no more prostitutes because this is all related. If you
wanna find a real, true relationship, then you must start to focus
on your "real world" and not the "underworld" of the prostitution.
Stop going to prostitutes and clean up your act.
