*sorry if this is repost. I posted once but i
didn't see it come up at the forum, so trying
again*
I've been married for
under 6 months. Living together has not been easy. In the house, I
do all the chores. The cooking, cleaning, laundry, vacuuming, etc.
I make breakfast and dinner for her everyday. During lunch, as our
workplaces are only walking distance away from each other, she
wants to have lunch with me everyday. I don't get to eat with my
colleagues or friends who work nearby. Only on occasions when i
have a lunch meeting, she will let me eat with my colleagues, but
she will still give me a sulky face.
She doesn't let me go
out with my friends after work. Everyday I wait for her to finish
work before we go home together, even though she sometimes finishes
work 1.5 hours after I do. I will just walk around the area to pass
the time. I think the security guard at her office lobby knows me
quite well. There's only a small group of friends that she has
'approved' me to go out with. And when i go out with them, she must
come along too.
She gets jealous very
easily, I feel like she doesn't trust me at all. Last week, I
wished my good friend on Facebook "Congratulations!", cause she got
married. She then accused me of looking at pretty girls on facebook
and being kaypoh.
She hates staying
with my parents, even though to me they are nice parents. I try to
be understanding coz i know it's difficult for a girl to move out
of her family and stay with a new one. But my parents have been
very accomodating and nice to her. But she hates to eat with them.
We will walk home SLOWLY until we know that my parents have eaten
dinner already, so that by the time we reach home, she doesn't have
to sit at the same table as them. She will then hide in our bedroom
and sleep/watch tv. Only once my parents have retreated into their
bedroom to sleep, then she will be willing to come out to shower.
Sometimes it's already 1am by then.
She doesn't
appreciate my passions either. I love music. I wanted to take
guitar lessons, just once a week for an hour, maybe after office
hours while waiting for her to end work. But she told me not to
waste the money and to save it for our house in the future. The
lessons are only about $150 a month. Yet she can go shopping every
weekend and spend over $300 each session.
I feel so strangled.
I really do love her and there are good days. But I feel like a
part of me is dying. What should I do? I really don't want a
divorce but is it the only answer?
and you married this bitch
?...................aiyoh..................
and you still not divorced yet
?.......................aiyoh.....................
don't be a PUSSY-WHIPPED WIMP like Nelson Mandela
lah...........................
