Im having a dilemma now. Im starting my new job soon and at same
time I have a friend who wants me to accompany her for a trip to
Europe.
The problem here is, she has stage 3 lung cancer and was told by
her doctors she only have about 3-6 months to live. But she still
wants to go for the trip anyway.
Since Im starting a new job, I know my leave wont be approve and
my friend wants to be there at least 2 weeks. And since she dont
have much time, I may have to quit my job and help her fulfilled
her dying wish. She has made it clear to me that she only wants to
go with me and no one else. She even offered to pay for my
expenses. I feel bad about that.
So shall I quit my new job to help her fulfilled her wish? Im at
a loss now and I dont know what to say. She's in a very fragile
state and I have to be careful with my words. I've no experience in
dealing with such people. And she needs me by her side for the
remaining time that she has.
Do you have enough savings to last you for a year or more?
If you have, go ahead and quit your job. You can always find a
new job later (though it may be difficult), but once your friend is
gone she won't be back.
If she is just "another friend", you may have to think twice.
But since she really needs you, and you are really that close to
her, there isn't much reasons save for financial ones for you to
leave her be.
Touchwood, but who knows if she will even return from this trip?
If she didn't, then at least her last moments are with someone whom
she wants to be with, and not alone with some random tour
agency.
If you do not have enough savings, you can consider borrowing
from your family or close friends, but do return the money to them
once you have the financial ability to do so.