Ts,
If u feel hurt understand this lah - it is needs expectations
masquerading as love that hurts. Till one acknowledges the folly of
misunderstanding/misinterpreting the above as love, one is sooner
or later going to come away feeling hurt and rejected.
U ask how not to fall in love? If one can be self-fulfilled (on
the INSIDE and yet being a porous ego) the chances of one falling
in love is very remote. Also, people do not fall in love with
another but rather fall in love with an image that one
carries in one's head and when that projection is
found on another - one falls! So the reality is that one does not
love the other but the reflections of what is within oneself.
If one is friendly what is there for a friend? Friendliness is a
fragrance of one being .... (what is one being when one
is in a situation, or with a friend, family or ..., eg
hostile, sociable, judgemental, loving ....add on).
Friendship is a thing, friendliness is a quality of what one
is!
All said and done the quality of being able to relate to oneself
is essential. If one is able to understand, acknowledge and fufill
that aspect within onself, relating to others would not be
difficult. Even when it gets challenging one would still be able to
handle situations/people or what-have-you. The quality of life is
not in the living but the ability to relate to all and sundry.
Think of situations/cirumstances from shopping, work, business,
friends, family - it is how one relates that matters.
PS - Let me reiterate love never hurts, people who cannot love
pretend and delude themselves and the hurt is always cos of
expectations, needs , hoping for another to fulfil one's
beggary.
my england broken man.... very chim... :-)
