Why is it so hard to find somebody we like

Julian.khor SG

Dear everybody,

I have a few question:

1) Why the girl I like, always don't like me? But they girl I don't like always give me attention?

I like a certain girl but she avoids me so I believe she rejected me. But then there is this 24 year old girl at office who always want to pester me to go out with her but I am not interested in her because of her character. She like to talk a lot of bad word and profanity. She also known for sleeping with other men. I know some forumer here is going to tell me to go for one night stand. Firstly, I am not interested in her, secondly, she is not attractive to me, thirdly, I don't want to catch STD, fourthly, I got my own ethics.

2) Why everbody have same taste as I?

Whenever I like the girl, there is always 3 guys going after the same girl. I feel so frustrated. She always take the guy who is most aggressive, most rich and most charming. I am not very good at charming because I am bit introvert.

3) Why I never success after 2 dates?

I never ever success after 2 dates. After that the girl will text me sms saying "I am such a sweet, nice and good guy, but we cannot go out again because she is not that keen on me. Bla Bla thank you for the memories".

I have 3 dates and all failure. That was 3 years ago. So hard to find girl friend.

Last week, my friend from Malaysia show me a newspaper cutting saying more men in Malaysia than women. Censor say 100 men to 88 women. I wonder how many 100 Singapore men to ??? Singaporean women???? Must be fewer. Sigh, so hard to find girl friend.

I always have to fight against 3 to 5 guys for one girl's hand. So unfair.

tripsky SG

1. you dont like the gal that like you. she don't like the guy that like her. fair wat.

2. your taste is too mainstream. i suggest u go alternative route. or you just try to charming more loh.

3. try more then will success one. 2 times no enough time to success lah. add oil~!

theWEIRDme SG

erm, dude, maybe cus we are tooo normal? and gogogo! chase the girl you like! all the best!

FireIce SG

so tt when u finally found it, it's worth it.

good things dont come easy.

Junyang700 SG

Because god is giving you a chance to find a better mate. =)

ditzy SG

Because life sucks, and its never fair.

parn SG

Dear everybody,

I have a few question:

1) Why the girl I like, always don't like me? But they girl I don't like always give me attention?

2) Why everbody have same taste as I?

3) Why I never success after 2 dates?

I have 3 dates and all failure. That was 3 years ago. So hard to find girl friend.

I always have to fight against 3 to 5 guys for one girl's hand. So unfair.

Then you go for the girl that you don't like and find something that you like about her after you've known as friends and become close friends then you will be able to find out the reason why you will fall in love with the girl which you initially don't like.

Alot of guys also like me, but I don't like them so I never give them a chance.

Be grateful that a girl has actually taken liking to you, she have actually given you the golden opportunity to form a potential relationship with her.

People like you should treasure that opportunity especially when you're not tall, dark, handsome or aggressive, rich, charming.

maxsee SG

One thing i learn about girls is that you need to be rich....it is not so important that you are tall, dark and handsome...but it is definitely important that you are loaded...

When i was young i use to think that 2 persons should be bound by love...As i grow older, i realized that it has nothing to do with love but the size of your wallet.

So if u want the girl of you dream. You are better off trying to get more $$$ first.

And once u got $$$, you will have tons of girls throwing themselves at you....><"

Julian.khor SG

Alot of guys also like me, but I don't like them so I never give them a chance.

Be grateful that a girl has actually taken liking to you, she have actually given you the golden opportunity to form a potential relationship with her.

People like you should treasure that opportunity especially when you're not tall, dark, handsome or aggressive, rich, charming.

I can go for a girl who I 40% don't like, not a girl that I 110% don't like. You see doesn't mean, I like a girl, I like everything about her, nobody is perfect. For example, there is one girl I like but she got insecure problems because last time she waas hurt by her past bf. So, she became very sensitive but I still like her for what she is.

"Alot of guys also like me, but I don't like them so I never give them a chance."

To be fair, you also don't want to try those you don't like.

Ahem, the girl in the office don't actualy like me. She is trying to buat kacau at me. Some girl like to disturb single guys. Unfortunately it is the kind of girl I 110% don't like becuase her behaviour make me disgusted. She like to sleep around, very ego, proud - always want attention, play office politics and favourtism, boastful (claim herself is attractive but actually otherwise), say a lot of vulgar words, like to gossip, irritating voice, accuse people without evidence, lazy, always play tai chi in office, blame people no.1, put on a lot of makeup and smell awful full of perfume.

I don't see that as a golden opportunity more like rusted opportunity because that is one opportunity we guys don't want. We guys want genuine relationship not those who buat kacau in office.

angel7030 SG

We want genuine relationship??? find a girl outside your office, why go for your colleagues, only those lame one go for their own gal colleagues because they cannot find gals outside. It is better to get a gal outside your working place, you will have a better love relationship, like my bf, i dun take any in our office, i use to take those in out of office, cos office invite lots of politics and you so call buat kacau problems

Julian.khor SG

How to find? All my schoolmate already attach. Nowaday, everybody busy working, no social life. I want to go out and meet girls but where to meet? I go to work then after that go home eat and then sleep. Next day same thing. Different day, same shit.

Where to meet girls? Good and nice girls? Go to church? I don't want to change religion.

FireIce SG

temple no have good gers mehhhhhhh

TooFree SG

Firstly, what is Singapore statistical ratio of men to women? Are they on par or at an unbalanced ratio? Consumers generally go for better quality products but certainly one have to pay a higher premium and that includes Zoo outing, dinner, and watching movies. Not to mention the cumulative one have to pay for maintenance of the product to preserve its product-life cycle.

Jiani SG

it seems to me that you don't know how to impress us

maxsee SG

Just join social network www.loveybyte.org.sg to find people outside ur work place...pls stop giving excuses......

maxsee SG

There are tons of girls on SDN...><"

parn SG

"Alot of guys also like me, but I don't like them so I never give them a chance."

To be fair, you also don't want to try those you don't like.

I don't see that as a golden opportunity more like rusted opportunity because that is one opportunity we guys don't want. We guys want genuine relationship not those who buat kacau in office.

I can only say the problem lies with you and not the girls who doesn't likes you, based on your elaborate criticism of them and none for yourself.

I'm sure there are many brudders in here who would be able to have a genuine relationship with you.

Maybe you should go and buy a Viet-Con wife? It's quite popular and many Singaporean men with similar mindset like yourself are doing so.

Since you're not Man Enough to handle a Singaporean Girl.

Julian.khor SG

I can only say the problem lies with you and not the girls who doesn't likes you, based on your elaborate criticism of them and none for yourself.

I'm sure there are many brudders in here who would be able to have a genuine relationship with you.

Maybe you should go and buy a Viet-Con wife? It's quite popular and many Singaporean men with similar mindset like yourself are doing so.

Since you're not Man Enough to handle a Singaporean Girl.

Problem lie with me? How can I blame myself for being myself? How can I blame myself if I am born ok looking but not as handsome as brad pitt? How can I blame myself or my parent when they cannot afford to take me to univeristy and Poly and I have to go straight to work?

Blaming myself = self defeatism. I try my best and only my best count.

Why you look down on Viet-Con woman? You think Singaporean men must buy Viet-Con wife? Cannot have relationship wif foreigh woman without buying them wan meh?

It is not that I am Not Man Enough, I am every Man that a Singaporean girl want - physically. Only problem is I have no $$$$$.

kenn3th SG

Why are there so many of such threads recently.

Jiani SG

don't know how to take loan to go uni?