Why is it so hard to find somebody we like

Goldendaven SG

I like girls with personality, mind of their own and STYLE!

Julian.khor SG

I am not perfect. Since I am still studying, I strive to be perfect. Even if I am 26, I will still strive to be perfect, because I want to be successful in life. Then, I can get anything I want as long as I work hard.

You say onli. You haven't come out to work yet - you meet all sort of people. Suddenly you don't understand why some people nasty at you at work even though you try to work hard and nice. Wait lah. If life is as easy as "I work hard, success come by". Then would it not be great, everybody is successful?

Reality not work that way. I am not sound negative to you, I just want to tell you that sometime you judge other people, you think they are dumb and not smart in making decision but soomeday, you mays stumble yourself.

Goldendaven SG

yeah true. Sometimes hardwork doesnt pay off…

Julian.khor SG

anyway, why don't you go and study in JC? even if your poor, goverment will support you. and why didn't your parents start planning everything when you are born? like starting a bank account for you, or buying uni insurance? when did your parents get into debt? and why don't you start educating yourself since your just 26? support yourself into ploy and uni. then, sg girls will feel that they can trust their life in you. uni degree means a big jump in pay.

I may, I may. But right now I want to finish a course, I am taking night classes. Debt issue is another matter, I don't want to talk about, it was my parents mistake.

Please, not everybody born with manual how to live your life. Some things we don't know. My parents old fashion, they don't know a lot of things and they didn't finish school. So I didn't exactly suddenly got good academic advice.

Not everybody born wif silver spoon like you. Sometime fate has its way. We may not get the headstart, you have.

Julian.khor SG

Ts,

if you feel that this stance of yours resonates of you and with others and gets you by what can I or anyone for that matter say.

PS Just these that you may have overlooked - i sad comparison is unhealthy. I said use the ego and not be used by it!

Precisely, I use the ego as my shield. Ego is very important in life. Watch the movie "Anger management" by Adam Sandler. This character was so soft because he have no ego, everybody bully him, his self esteem is all time low, his gf very angry at him for being pushover. One day he over-reacted and got himself into trouble. But luck has his way, he got a good therapist who guide him and help him release his anger and build the ego so he won't get exploited by people and he won't outburst again.

Fugazzi SG

To maintain a fiction is ardous and movies are fiction. That is why they are labelled as movies = an escape from what is true and real. Ego is a fiction. It exists only when when one gives attention to it , in other words one who is very self-conscious. Self-concsious mean one who is anxious of what others think of them, approval-seeking behaviour and

As an aside, any emotion can only be trancended thru understanding, managment is a misnomer, to control is to suppress - what is suppressed will eventually surface.

ShrodingersCat SG

Mutual attraction is a gift. Hmm..good point. Also have to bring in timing as well. I have to be available. She must be available too. ANd we both happen to meet. What is the chance of that?

Yalor.. which is why instead of worrying too much about it... focus on making your life fulfilling, and making more friends instead of simply finding one special elusive one.

Hitman 778 SG

GO WATCH PORN!

seyKai SG

finding some1 u like is like shopping, except they dun put in the shops or advertise. so like i said - advertise yourself

PUT YOUR CV HERE or NEWSPAPERs

Julian.khor SG

As an aside, any emotion can only be trancended thru understanding, managment is a misnomer, to control is to suppress - what is suppressed will eventually surface.

Ego is not fiction, it is real. Ego can be good but Ego can be bad too. I usethe Good Ego. Ego is not about getting approval from others, ego is the exact opposite. Ego is for one to express self righteousness. Only people who are pushovers and lack self esteem have no ego.

Jiani SG

I may, I may. But right now I want to finish a course, I am taking night classes. Debt issue is another matter, I don't want to talk about, it was my parents mistake.

Not everybody born wif silver spoon like you. Sometime fate has its way. We may not get the headstart, you have.

my parents not rich, my parents are always planning tons of things for me.

littlemissbonkers SG

TS obviously doesn't even appeal to online gals.

This is definitely not about looks or wealth.

Maybe TS should take a good hard look at himself and ask himself if he has anything to offer to his prospective mate. And I don't just mean money.

BTW, you like pretty/popular gals then pretty/popular gals like rich handsome guys. And? Both equally shallow wat, so what's there to complain about?

likeyou SG

Dear everybody,

I have a few question:

1) Why the girl I like, always don't like me? But they girl I don't like always give me attention?

I like a certain girl but she avoids me so I believe she rejected me. But then there is this 24 year old girl at office who always want to pester me to go out with her but I am not interested in her because of her character. She like to talk a lot of bad word and profanity. She also known for sleeping with other men. I know some forumer here is going to tell me to go for one night stand. Firstly, I am not interested in her, secondly, she is not attractive to me, thirdly, I don't want to catch STD, fourthly, I got my own ethics.

2) Why everbody have same taste as I?

Whenever I like the girl, there is always 3 guys going after the same girl. I feel so frustrated. She always take the guy who is most aggressive, most rich and most charming. I am not very good at charming because I am bit introvert.

3) Why I never success after 2 dates?

I never ever success after 2 dates. After that the girl will text me sms saying "I am such a sweet, nice and good guy, but we cannot go out again because she is not that keen on me. Bla Bla thank you for the memories".

I have 3 dates and all failure. That was 3 years ago. So hard to find girl friend.

Last week, my friend from Malaysia show me a newspaper cutting saying more men in Malaysia than women. Censor say 100 men to 88 women. I wonder how many 100 Singapore men to ??? Singaporean women???? Must be fewer. Sigh, so hard to find girl friend.

I always have to fight against 3 to 5 guys for one girl's hand. So unfair.

1) Faith. Your love has not cross your path yet.

2) Life is like that. You take first or I take first. Never fair.

3) Dont give up. Only 2 tried. You more more opportunities.

Julian.khor SG

TS obviously doesn't even appeal to online gals.

This is definitely not about looks or wealth.

Maybe TS should take a good hard look at himself and ask himself if he has anything to offer to his prospective mate. And I don't just mean money.

BTW, you like pretty/popular gals then pretty/popular gals like rich handsome guys. And? Both equally shallow wat, so what's there to complain about?

Maybe just to you. Hellow Miss Bonkers, you are obviously shallow because you haven't read my thread properly. Please wear another set of spectacles lady before you start pre-judging me. Are you lacking intelligence? I never said anything about me liking pretty/popular girls. I never said I wanted a Ms Universe to be my gf. All I just wanted is for at least some element of physical attraction, is that too much to ask for?

In addition to that, character is most important to me. I like a pleasant nice gal who can discuss and work things out with me.

Yes I take a good hard look at myself. What do I have to offer? A lot. I am caring, helpful, a good listener and kind as I have earlier said to another forumer. Again you not paying attention and not read carefully, before you start blurting and accusing.

Julian.khor SG

my parents not rich, my parents are always planning tons of things for me.

Not everybody fortunate like you and have parents like yours who can plan thing ahead for you.

My parent, I love them a lot but because they are lot highly educated, they didn't plan ahead for me.

Fcukpap SG

gals usually think that guys are to be blamed first....its in their nature...save your breath to change the unpredictable creatures.... :)

seyKai SG

ego is man greatest enemy, no such tin as good ego

Jiani SG

Not everybody fortunate like you and have parents like yours who can plan thing ahead for you.

My parent, I love them a lot but because they are lot highly educated, they didn't plan ahead for me.

they are highly educated? why can't take a loan?

littlemissbonkers SG

In addition to that, character is most important to me. I like a pleasant nice gal who can discuss and work things out with me.

It's ok, you can be as defensive as you want. Afterall, you're the one desperate for a girlfriend.

Pity you don't even appeal to online girls.

Rooney9 SG

it is very hard indeed to find a soul mate who understands and love you.

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