Sad and Happy

munchmv SG

Do you agree that there are two sides to a person - for example a person can be sometimes negative and positive ? Or do you think that one side is always dominant in a person ? That is, a person is predominantly a sad person or predominantly a happy person ?

Would anyone wish to remain sad anyway ? Or is sadness a result of circumstances which are less fulfilling ?

I realise that I keep falling back into depression. Am alone most of the days. Not sure if this is my nature or due to my circumstances. I am not always sad, though. There was a period of my life when I was with happy people and engaged in meaningful work. I was happy then.

If I believe that I am a naturally sad person, then would it be counter-productive to change myself to be happier ? Maybe I should accept the sad side of me ? Society celebrates happiness and admires happy people. However sadness is the other side of the same coin. Sadness should not be despised upon nor avoided. Can it be avoided anyway if it is part of you ? Many great artists are melancholy people. It could just be the way a person (brain) is wired.

I am a person with much conflict. The more I seek fulfilment, the further I am from it.

littlemissbonkers SG

There are people who are naturally "depressed".

As long as it's not affecting your life too much and doesn't give you suicidal thoughts, then I guess it should be ok.

But once you start feeling suicidal you should seek help immediately.

On the other hand, I believe that you should still strive to be happy, or at least be more neutral and not depressed.

Too much melancholiness is not good for health.

Also if this depression is caused by some past events, you should seek to resolve it ASAP, because this is not a "natural" state for you le => not due to genetics but caused by outside factors.

Julian.khor SG

There are people who are naturally "depressed".

As long as it's not affecting your life too much and doesn't give you suicidal thoughts, then I guess it should be ok.

But once you start feeling suicidal you should seek help immediately.

On the other hand, I believe that you should still strive to be happy, or at least be more neutral and not depressed.

Too much melancholiness is not good for health.

Also if this depression is caused by some past events, you should seek to resolve it ASAP, because this is not a "natural" state for you le => not due to genetics but caused by outside factors.

Ooohhhh gosh, r u going to listen to this smart alec? Miss Bonkers, should jump off a ledge.

littlemissbonkers SG

Ooohhhh gosh, r u going to listen to this smart alec? Miss Bonkers, should jump off a ledge.

Please don't hijack people's thread to draw more attention to yourself.

You're only showing everyone how butthurt you are after I've hit your sore spot.

But by all means, prove me right.

likeyou SG

I think all pple are like that : sometime happy sometime sad.

There are times where a person is happy and times where a person is sad.

Look at a brighter side, we definately would not want to be sad forever.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Take a look at baby pictures.... tell me how you feel..

When they smile, they seems so innocent. They don't know what is happy/upset. When their demands (milk) are met, they smile at you. :) Otherwise, they'll create hell noise for you if they feel hungry (creating attentions so that demand can be fulfilled).

Life is always up and down, and I am glad you recognize that. Upset/depress/unhappy are negative emotions, and most of the time it is very unwanted (cos they doesn't make you feel good). We seek for Happy/euphoria because of the powerful positive impact that changes life.

The power of beliefs and faith, this is something that can alter your future. I am no religious person, but I can definitely tell you that it has changed my life in a significant way.

I believe there is something missing in your life right now. I may not know what is it, but I can definitely tell something is missing. You are trying to spend time searching for the missing piece of the puzzle, and I hope you will find it one day.

Best Regards,
Chin Seng
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angel7030 SG

Once in the mountain of Hwa in taiwan, in a nunnery monastery, a master nun was conducting her meditation lesson when one playful disciple of her asked...

Lingmei (my nun nick): Master, what is saddness and what is happiness.

Master nun: Lingmei, do yr meditation like the other please, and dun disturb.

Lingmei: But master, I keep thinking of this sad and happy stuff, so cannot concentrate on it.

Master nun: Haiz! lingmei lingmei, you very troublesome one leh, if can keep quiet for 30 minutes, i will be the most happiest person!, so shut up.

Lingmei: But master, please englighten me

Master nun: wo de ma, ok, let me enlighten you, then you go and think about it in your meditation. "For without saddness, where can there be happiness."

Lingmei: Oh, thank you master, that mean saddness is the creator and also part of happiness.

Master nun: no more question, QUIET!!!

Lingmei: Oops sori master......shhhhh!!

eh...master...then what is angry???

Master Nun: ^^%^&&*(&*(#$#$%%^()*()MA MA*(89723#[email protected][email protected]&&&^%$ can some one get this little nun out of here!!!Wo de ma...

Kaise SG

a matter of mind over heart or viceversa

Julian.khor SG

Please don't hijack people's thread to draw more attention to yourself.

You're only showing everyone how butthurt you are after I've hit your sore spot.

But by all means, prove me right.

My sore spot? Haha, you are a joke. You hardly scratch me.

I am trying to make sure that the poor TS don't get corrupted with advice from lonely miserable mamasan spinsters like u who dunno anything about depression. I wonder who is the one who want attention, must be you or else you won't post ridiculous (laughable n nonsense) comment about me.

Nothing to prove to old grannie mamasan like Miss Bonker.

littlemissbonkers SG

My sore spot? Haha, you are a joke. You hardly scratch me.

Nothing to prove to old grannie mamasan like Miss Bonker.

Only 2 words can describe you -> 小人

You're a Loser in real life and a Loser online.

You can't get any girls in real life and you can't get any online.

And you're butthurt. Why? Because every word I've said is true and you know that.

Insult me all you want; your insults only show how lacking in character, moral fibre and intelligence you are.

BTW thanks for proving me right.

Moron.

To TS: Sorry for hijacking your thread. I didn't know that the troll will stalk my posts.

TTFU SG

Really 小人.no wonder sg forum is dying.

Anyway TS i believe humans are creatures that seek happiness. You should find yours too. Perhaps change the view point of life, find more friends or get together more.

mistyblue SG

Strange as it may sound,

you can choose how you want to feel.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Really 小人.no wonder sg forum is dying.

Anyway TS i believe humans are creatures that seek happiness. You should find yours too. Perhaps change the view point of life, find more friends or get together more.

When I was sleeping, I was thinking about sgF dying problem. Then I realised that most of our fourmer from Dragon and Snake year go inside liao~! Maybe that caused the loss....