Sexless Marriage & Hubby's Affair

ShyGuyIsNotGay SG

From the short account of the said story on your view point, husband is on the wrong clearly. However not sure if it is the true picture. No doubt, Relationships do break up easily, frequently without any good reasons. Feelings changed, and that is it. Lol, unbelieveable? it is true. A person change bad can be overnight, but to make a person good takes persistent to hold on right morals over years overcoming difficulties, loneliness, etc.. But bad morals drilled into the kids, sink as deep as the bottomless pit. Bad morals are no longer bad to them, just a way of life...lol.. to survive.. So do you really want to talk bad of their father, while you wait for kids to grow up... all becos of $$$$.... lol.. think again...

Assume you are right, that the husband is not faithful to you. And you are really a great wife and did not do anything unfaithful. You should feel great, instead of depressed!

You can seek counsellers, but my bet is that they don't really do much.. you can seek free legal advise.. but you wait 1 month and then short session.. even if they help you anything at all.. if you see the lawyer.. charge you on the session .. hahahaha... So I am telling you that you can't bet them can help you much.

1) Stop thinking you are ugly and fat. Make yourself no fat and pretty. Don't naggy at the husband and pick on things to quarrel with the husband... Be sweet to the husband.. sometimes it is may be becos he felt otherwise... if you try to be a sweet, pretty, understanding and capable wife.. he still want to be cold cold.. then he is "STUPID BIG KID".. why be upset over a stupid big kid...lol.. worst than small kids...lol..

2) Start getting a job.. be independent.. are u able to ask your family members or relatives to help to take care of children (they should step-in and understand your situation)

3) At the same time, prepare for the divorce.. understand that the women charter is for you.. so u will win super big especially if you are right... waht are the things u need, so you ask legal advise so where so how slowly..

4) Once you secure a stable flow of income, and you really try to be a good wife, and he refuse to change after family pressure .. who knows man may repent.. oops.. maybe you wl become a different person when you feel you no need to depend on him anymore.

In difficulties, we have limited choices to take... but when we cross the darkness path of our lives, will we choose to be wicked, when more choices available now.

Fugazzi SG

Frankly, I am amazed, it is so undignifying to tell another person, in this instance to look pretty, to look sexy. Sad, it is indirectly telling her that she is not good enough.

In other words, one must and can only assume that who do not measure up to one's ideals is a ''failure''.

Frankly, to be rude, Ts used her hubby and he used her, love was never there - it was a mutual benefit scheme and along the way 'things meanings , fulfilment all ended.

The mistake is looking for someone to fulfil, be it in a marriage, a relationship. Two beggars are bound to exploit and prop up with ... it wont last. The discontent would surface.

Some know it some simply ignore or pretend and compromise to keep one's livelihood going.

Whimsy SG

She is imagining and hallucinating. She can apply this imagination and hallucination in a positive angle instead like - What she needs is security, she may learn from some cultural way of polygamy system and open her arm widely to receive his ex-gf to be a part of the family. Economically feasible for her as ex-gf also working but socially undesirable for some

angel7030 SG

Affair is quite common in all middle age men, not just your husband, my place/pubs here got lot of married men coming with women of their own or for women here. These is quite true for middle age men, they tends to look for another kind of enjoyment in life, but then, it is not fair to their wifes and childrens. I had in a way managed to talk to some of these men to go back to their wives, talk it over, and perhap can become better in love and family life again.

As a gal, i must caution you that man are never satisfy, they dun like to stay or do the same thing, they search for excitement and different way of doin things, you can call it creativity or new, but it is their habit, so try to change yourself to suit your husband, like go for a beauty make or dress up, get slim down, engage your husband more often and most important, be jovious, active and steady, men love active and jovious women ya. That is why most look for me, cos I am alway active and jovious

mistyblue SG

There is no such thing as "no choice" and nothing last forever.

What do you want for you life and yourself?

Dying is not really a option. Its just an escape.

angel7030 SG

You can also doll up, make yourself pretty and court some guys to make your husband jealous and feel remorseful over his way of treating you. Show them our powerpuff gals way of life ya

gunner77 SG

Today you lie on your bed and spread your legs wide.

Settle already.

likeyou SG

TS, think of your 3 little kids. Put your love towards the 3 kids. Ensure your hubby give your the allowances for all the expenses. If got extra allowance, keep it save to yourself.

Veggie Bao SG

My marriage has been a stormy one. My hubby had an affair 3 years ago which I have forgiven him. However, recently I saw that same ex-gf smsing him 'Miss you so much darling, miss your hugs and kisses'. I was stunned. He told me that they did not do anything sexual and I had to force myself to believe that. Having 3 kids, I had to endure. However, it has been like 6 months since we last had sex and I am very upset that he seemed really cold towards me. While I cannot divorce due to my 3 kids (age 4 to 10), I have been suffering emotionally and dying deep inside me. I am quite overweight due to births and I am not young, 42 this year. I feel so ugly and unwanted. Is really shattering to feel that my hubby is having an affair while I had to endure. I am a houswife so I am dependant on him. I feel so suicidal.Help!

Tell him strongly that he need to cut off all contacts with his ex-GF.

SMS flirts cannot be tolerated.

Tell him it is a red line and it must stop.

If he is not receptive, take further action, contact the ex-GF and tell her off. Dont be afraid.

Apart from this, I recommend the two of you spend more time together, go take a vacation together, and so on.

Dont worry, slowly and gradually you can see some improvement in your marriage life. As long as you take some action.

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