I grew up in a family whereby the father still have the
not-caring approach in the family. He believed that whatever he
learnt from his generation could still apply now as in they believe
only by using threat and force could make the sons and daughter
submit to them. He had never cared about our school work,
everything since young.
20yrs later now it ended up with almost none of my
siblings including me are close to him, is as though he is a
total stranger. It gets so bad that sitting down for a meal with
him turns so awkward. We could like just walk past each other
without acknowledgement.
I really wants to know how do I prevent this from
happening to my own family in future. I would consider myself
to be a great failure if I ever become like him,
estranged from the family. Is there a way to learn good
parenting? How how?
Your father is a lousy father because you and your siblings are
by-products of his sexual relief with your mother. Back then don't
have contraceptives like modern time. And he is just a lazy bum,
really.
Nowadays, having children is a CHOICE.
Since you don't want to behave like your father then don't,
what's stopping you ?
When you become a father in the future, be more involved with
your children and engage in their life.
Your father never learned to "enjoy" fatherhood, you don't have
to make the same mistake.
Putting food on the table is no longer just a man's
responsibility anymore. With more mothers working and bringing back
the dough, a father's obligation is no longer limited to just bread
and butter.
Children are forced to love their parents, but love simply
cannot be bought.
