I need your help towards this problem guys...Perhaps give me a
few advices for it
2 days ago,my band was discussing about which song will be the
second song to be performed for my school's prom...when we came up
with a list of songs and informed the rhythm guitarist,the rhythm
guitarist requested us to choose 1 song as he has not enought time
due to O'levels. So when we suggested a song out of the song
list,he insisted on the other song . I was alright but the rest
kinda insisted that we learn all the songs and judge from
there and a small argument broke out when my drummer asked my
rhythm "you no time to learn or you don't like the song that's why
you don't wanna learn?" thn yea and it goes on and on... (* my
rhythm likes heavy music)
So the problem now is that,the rhythm has left the band ,he's
kinda like a best friend to me and i don't really want him to
leave the band as we had this same dream of performing at prom
since like sec 3? But thing is,due to the argument,the band is
willing to perform FOR me only and if he's in ,they are not
playing....
So tell me guys,what should i do to get the best of both sides
right now?
Now that the situation has become this bad, the best thing you
can do is to actually leave your best friend be, and continue
without him.
I understand that you really truly care for him and hope that he
can continue the dream of the two of you together.
However, I believe that even if you manage to convince a few
band members, there will still be others who will not accept him.
In the worst case scenario, the band may even want you to get out
of the group.
You can try to get both your friend and the rest of the band to
get together to talk, but you will risk losing your position in the
band as well. If you are willing to take such a risk, and put your
dream at stake, then by all means go ahead and get everyone
together and talk.
You can and you should seek your band's teacher-in-charge in
getting everyone together though, as I am sure not that everyone
will want to come and talk to your friend.