why when i tried to help solving my friend's problem, not only
the problem not solved, it inflict some pain to me.. i help them
and they inflict pain into me.. whyyyyyy? is it so hard to be a
good guy? should i change myself to be worse? cunning? evil?
whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy :(
depressed.
Though it's human nature to react to a situation
or person, but sometimes, it's not the most effective thing to do.
Being neutral to a problem or situation
will allow a person to see and think more clearly about
the root cause of the problem, and not be sucked into the
drama, which may backfire and result in what you felt after
your well-intended efforts.
Often, difficult situations are needed for the person involved
to learn from and grow as a person, and not for external
parties to get involved and disrupt the learning opportunity
meant only for the person involved. In such situations, a sincere
and caring listening ear is all that is needed, not more
non-neutral opinions.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
