Positive and Negative applies more to pessimistic people and
less to every day lives. For everyday folks like me, the challenges
and opportunities lay not in how positive I think about myself but
how my everyday environment is. Of course, our positive perception
about ourselves does a lot of good but usually we are hindered by
other people in our work environment, our relationships and our
everyday lifes. Truth betold, BAD people do exist in our lifes. We
can have people in the office who back stabs and cause us a lot of
headache. Perhaps we have a brother who gambles a lot and borrow a
lot of money from the family. Or we may even be married to our
spouse who is very demanding and argue a lot with us. Positive
Power can only go so far. Question is, what is Positive Power? Is
it thinking how great we feel, while in the office somebody takes
the credit for our work and yet we still sit down there quietly
thinking positive? Our spirits and souls can only go so far, if we
continue to bluff ourselves with Positive Power...our self esteem
will start to hurt. Therefore WISDOM is needed to govern our
decisions and grace. We can go out there and fight for our
existence and our work effort in the office or we can choose to
quit the job and hope to get a greenier job on the other side.
Just how far Positive Power can get you? If you have a very
troublesome spouse who cannot agree on you on every single decision
or she is so demanding that she wants you to buy the best property
in sg when you can't afford it. Just think about that.
True that Life is not so simple. Life is very complex, and
involves many factors.
From what you've shared, common frustrations stem mostly from
people around us and our work enviroment. That's true,
especially in S'pore, where people are conditioned to 'live to
work'. It's all about personal choice. Are we fine with
the way things are? Often, people are so sick of their
jobs, but stay in it, for purely security reasons, to avoid
taking risk. But if somehow, for whatever reasons, job security no
longer applies, and most companies cannot guarantee long-term
employment for staff, will people then choose to work in a job that
they truly enjoy?
Regarding people we don't enjoy being around with, if we cannot
avoid it completely, we have a choice to minimise contact, or not
be "too attached" with the interaction. When we are "too
attached", we tend to place too much negative emotions on the
interaction with the people we don't enjoy company with.
Emotions is the key here. We can choose to have positive
emotions (ideally), detached (neutral) or negative emotions (most
unfavourable case). If we can remain detached when dealing with
someone we have conflicts with, we won't get as negatively
affected, as when we stir up negative emotions within us.
If the person we don't enjoy being with is a bf/gf/spouse,
because of their negative traits, why then did we choose to be with
them in the first place? Should they be also thinking of improving
themselves, to improve the relationship? :)
At the end of the day, we all have the power to choose. Giving
up that personal power results in us living a life that we don't
want.
Rainbown Jigsaw of Life
