Shd i break up?

SL~ SG

My bf and I had been tgt for 1 year plus now. He betrayed my trust when we were in 2 mths of the relationship. I had gave him alot of chances afterwhich but all he did was to betray the trust again and again. Now I had gave him the last chance but I’m being very suspicious everyday, wondering when he will do it again. In addition, I’m heading to USA and will be there for 2 weeks. I cant trust him when I’m there. Is there anyway to salvage the relationship and rebuild the trust or shd i step out of this relationship?

FireIce SG

since u oredi like tt say, then i think it's bye bye liao loh.

Just_do_it_lah SG

Get out of this r/s asap.....

Just_do_it_lah SG

TTFU SG

It depends how much you can re-trust him again. Is the love still there to overlook the mistakes ? How is he treating you now ? those are the questions you need to ask yourself

SL~ SG

Answering to your Q

I cant trust him again but i really do want to trust him again and it’s hard. Everyday, Im preparing myself for breakup in case he make mistake again which im not going to give him any more chances. All these explain my coldness towards him.

Yes, I still love him and i’ve overlook those mistakes. It’s just the matter on trust that is killing me.

Lastly, he is treating me very gd now.

That’s why i dunnoe what i shd do now.

TTFU SG

What about his betrayal ? Is everything settled on that side ? Did he cut off contacts and such ? Once again depends how much you love him. If you really want to continue this relationship, give him and yourself one last chance and trust him. No point half half and make yourself miserable.

If things turn out bad for the third time, leave him for good.

Just_do_it_lah SG

SL~ SG

He promised to cut contacts but he didnt. This last chance I had gaven him, he promised the same thing and say time will prove. So this have to wait and see.

Another problem is that he gets over-friendly with girls. By action or talk, this is one thing that i don’t know whether can he draw the line and know his limit.

Just_do_it_lah SG

Noahtay SG

haizzz

it a R/S where there is no trust, how will it work?

Just_do_it_lah SG

Look at the weapons hanging on the wall....

TTFU SG

Seems like problem quite jia lat... If you cant tolerate his behaviour with girls, will have quarrels every now and then... Plus he dint even cut contact or anything, gives me the impression that his not really sorry and truely wanting to change.

Overall conclusion: Leave him.

Just_do_it_lah SG

Broken hearted me - Anne murray ....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X84kVTU_1yQ

voltrons. SG

2mths and you lost faith and trust in him. but yet you can be with him together for a year plus. then again after such a long time trust is still not place. So i think instead of dragging it, why not break free from it? lols.

Arapahoe SG

Going to the USA might be Good for you to think thru....seperate to see if you have more energy cause if it is than the relationship is dragging you down.

Sound like it takes a lot out of you to police this relationship. U have to answer to yourself what do you get out of this relationship? Anything u learned ? any spiritual grow ?

maybe you start growing up when you are emotionally not black mail by him......

SL~ SG

Noted! U guys helped alot, thanks!!!