Career? Or Girlfriend?

last SG · 2010-08-08T23:30:29+00:00

I was also travelling for many years (around 80% of the time in a year) since my graduation in 2005. I was 24 back then and it was until last year that I fin...

ulquiorra87 SG

I'm facing a dilemma, I'm Travelling ALOT right now, and while all that travelling gives me valueable insight and learning experience, it is also my bane, i am at 23 and i don't have a steady girlfriend cause of this. While i sometimes enjoy the different stuffs i do, i sometimes feel sooo soo lonely on the inside, and i know i cant find a girlfriend yet because i know i will move again and the relationship will surely end. SOmetimes i feel so happy but i have no one i can truly share it with, sometimes i feel demoralized but there is no one i can confide in. I dont like this feeling.. And i'd like to find a singaporean girlfriend but i wont be back in SG for the next many years.. Unless i stop my overseas job after i graduate and slack off in SG to find my soulmate..

So this is a choice between finding my soulmate or advancing in my career quickly.. And frankly i am 50/50 on this. What do you guys think?

jojobeach SG

So this is a choice between finding my soulmate or advancing in my career quickly.. And frankly i am 50/50 on this. What do you guys think?

No proper career , you also very hard to find girlfriend de.

If a nice pretty girl is your motivation. Then work hard and be an achiever.

Else you can only salivate after another man's pretty wife.

Keep an open mind. You don't have to only focus on this little red dot to find your soulmate.

Since you are fortunate to be given the opportunity to expand your choices because of your career, then why would you want to give it up so you can search in a micro dot ?

Think about it ya.

ditzy SG

Career, coz no career, no money, no gf.

gigabyte14 SG

if u got gf, u cant really travel that much

got good and bad points la

dangerboi SG

career....no money, no honey...probably most girls here will tell you that they don't really look at a guy's money. Do you actually believe in such a statement?

DriftingGuy SG

At 23 you are still young... If I were you i would focus 100% on my career first...

elindra SG

Unless you find a girlfriend who is very independent but it will be difficult.

Also the trust in each other have to be very very strong if not there will be a lot of problems and communication is a huge factor.

Anyway, I think you should put your career first and the soulmate later because you might just meet her somewhere.

Don’t tie it down to just Singaporean girls.

My husband travels frequently for his job. He is also posted overseas for a certain period of time and can range from a few months to 2 years.

I need to travel for my job too though not that extensively and nothing more than 3 weeks.

You just need to find someone who understands your job and work out a balance between the 2 of you.

Easier said than done, but it can work.

blurking123 SG

just focus on yr career... look at it in terms of long term basis... a good career can take u far in the future...

it takes time to find a girlfriend... though u r travelling, try to maintain good relationship with female friends...

Terminator Hitman SG

has anyhone here called a internet pornstar to strip or something??just curious....

Terminator Hitman SG

elindra...yer hubby overseas job sounds like what i did in my yunger days.

SpeedStar SG

I dont know travelling can be a career too haha. I too travel quite freq, all I have to say u can get to know friends while travelling, but once u want to settle down and travelling becomes an issue for u, switch to other job that require less travel. Nothing is 100%, just act according and life will be much easier for u. Be flexible a bit. Just my tots

SpeedStar SG

At 23 you are still young... If I were you i would focus 100% on my career first...

I wont say career not important, but can balance work and life. While working hard, make more friends too, who knows someone might come in ur way. My boss always tell me, its all about probability in finding ur soulmate. U just have increase them to find them hehe

Fire Cracker SG

u still very young mah.

why need gf so early. earn BIG $$$ first.

Yunhaier SG

So this is a choice between finding my soulmate or advancing in my career quickly.. And frankly i am 50/50 on this. What do you guys think?

It's quite difficult to have your cake and eat it. In reality, relationship do creates certain structures; despite how individualistic we are with regards to our life and perspective, it do somewhat condition us to try 'fit' into this structure. The more individualistically adamant your ideals are, the more challenges it is to squeeze them into the framework of a relationship.

It is not that a relationship is detrimental to our individual ideals, but rather, it is part of a greater understanding to promote the beauty of understanding, compromising and acceptance. Surely, if the structure of the relationship constricts certain things in life, something has to sacrifice a little. Sometimes in life, it's difficult to have the best of both worlds.

Also, soul mate doesn't just appear just because you decide to stay in sg and 'slack'.

You can only decide what is important to you right now at this stage to make reasonably calculated choice/s for yourself - look at the opportunities you own now and decide what you want to do with them. And not plan with things that has not manifest itself just yet.

Then your thoughts should be clearer.

Cheers

caleb_chiang SG

Well... I dun think that by staying in sg you would find your soul mate. If it's fated... you can find it elsewhere as well.

dukedracula SG

given you are so young...career with a capital c.....don't waste time on a girlfriend...once you are into it, she'll hold you back, almost for sure...and you'll regret..your career advancement will take a few more years...so don't terminate it prematurely...

Vote PAP OUT to Save SG SG

girlfriend means spend $$$.

what do you think?

gunner77 SG

Career la

straightforward.

lonely, can make friends and share the joy and sorrow.

blowfish SG

still need to ask meh? of cos career...

bodoh

Fcukpap SG

this also tell those who keep advertising on positive thinking books or theories which is so outdated and not relevant to a changing world...keep harping on undeniable love and men to keep changing for women...wat a shit

these positive gurus are just another careerist...dun they make lots of money through such seminars and donned with "educated" cap and look to tell you love is everything?

people are more intelligent than that