guys, i made a terrible mistake...
its like i made a girl really sad, and cried too
its like im afraid of commitments, like i will automatically
think far, and its like emotions will get the better of me in
future... imagine, imagine i wanna go overseas study, or work, and
in the end because of emotional ties i will be like choose
everything other than my happiness
summore recently the ppl ard me are like divorce and breakup, it
makes me think that everything can be so unpredictable, it freaks
me out
religion clashes too, i know it wont affect me now, but in the
future it'll definitely affect
shes happy, but im not, im just not the kind of commitment kinda
person, and i just... made her cry
its like better to end the smaller picture in order to make the
bigger picture work
am i doing the right thing?
Honestly, if you would to relook at what you
have typed, your fear of commitment has pervades every single mote
of your thoughts and rationalized them into some 'linear causal
fashion' as if life indeed runs in some orderly manner. Added with
tint of non-related deduction like social observation from people's
failing relationship is kinda bull as well.
I find it absurd whenever people say things like 'everyone's
relationship around me is failing' and they use it as a factor (no
matter how minute) to deter them from engaging in possible
meaningful relationship. It's almost like a gambler's fallacy, when
you made use of factors that makes no sense to unique situations
because every set of game is different - just like every possible
combination of relationship in any given time is vastly
different.
In US alone, one car-accident-related death is accounted for
every passing 13 minutes. If we use the world statistic, it would
probably be insane. So does that means that we don't walk the
street or drive any cars because a number of people around us are
dead because of car accident?
It doesn't matter what decision you make because the point of my
post does not address the morality of your decision, which it is
absolutely insubstantial to me. What is of a concern is how your
conceptualize your reasoning which give rise to your final
decision.
From what I am seeing, religious conflict is the only real
issue. Well, perhaps you might want to be brutally honest with
yourself on what's the real shit that isn't really workable here
and avoid dumping unnecessary components in your reasoning to 'beef
up' your justification - more quantity does not mean more
reasonable.
Are you willing to compromise in the framework of a relationship
or you prefer to pursue your individualistic goals? It does not
necessarily be an either or, but in your own private scaling, how
much are you willing to relent towards the other side of the scale
that isn't part of your grand plan? Many times, there are middle
grounds that we could tread, not just caught between a rock and a
hard place.
Learn to remove 'rightness' and 'wrongness' in any decision.
Decisions are neutral. There are only wise and unwise choices.
Willing or unwilling choices. If you cannot determine what is wise
and unwise, then you decide what you are willing or unwilling to
undertake. 
Cheers
