Male/25/Undergrad
for the past 2.5 years of studies i've been doing full time work
and studying on a part-time basis. Thus i nv took any money since
roughly 5 yrs ago (ns plus 2.5) from my mum except for the tuition
fees. But since i approaching my last semester i really think of
enjoying my sch life(cca etc etc). so i quit my job. Then no more
income and not much saving as i was working as a temp so the pay
also just enough to survive.
now monthly i need take about 1k(due to high overheads, poly
giro payment, ortho) from my mum. Then usually she only give
me the money after i asked her. (she wont automatically monthly
xfer). When she xfer the money she only put half($500). Then i take
the money pay credit card bills. Before the 1st week is over
the $500 all gone. Then i have to go to her again.
Its not as though we are from a poor family, we live in landed
property with 4 cars at home. But we are not very wealthy also. I
dont know how to make her understand. She's been doing this xxxx up
thing since poly. Everytime she give half then say if i finish tell
her. WTF ~ . All my sibings did their college overseas, only for me
i doing it local. I still remember how my mom would promptly
send them money. And when they ask for more, she will still xfer
over.
count yourself lucky to come from a well off family. Standing at
our mum postion, let me try explaining her position. Many of you
are so fortunate to not having gone thru hardship that many do
splurge on exjoying yourself. Therefore may not know the value of
money.
Did you feel "insulted" having to ask money from your mum? If
yes, good!. So you may value the money you have. Having say this,
let hope that one day when you become independent and have the
ability to give, don't let your mum "begged" from you, coz it time
for you the honour them and "repay" them.
