I am married with a teenage daughter. I am not at all with
my hubby since years back. He is always giving priority to
his frds and family. If his frd or family and I were to make
an appt on the same day same time he will tell me he has to go out
with his frd or family .. and ask me to wait for the following
week. However, due to his shift work, he has only one
precious weekend every mth for us, and very often he give priority
to his frds and family instead of me and daughter.
4-5 years back I nearly divorce him due to travelling
plans. I have been wanting to go to Japan or Vietnam for
years, but every year he will tell me next year we will go and
every year he agree to wherever his family plan to go. Even the
place that i hated most China and Taiwan. He keep asking me
to wait for him to save up enough for my place but every time he
will spend his saving going to places I dont really want to
go. As our money are limited when we go to these other places
my Japan and Vietnam got to wait for another year. I was very
angry and after this last china trip with his family I said lets
divorce I am not willing to wait endlessly for the place i want to
go. Since his family do not support going to places that i
wanted to go i also have no interest to go back every week
too.
With this divorce, he suddenly has available cash to go Japan
with us .. just the 3 of us family. and asked me to put off
the divorce plan. and since then i havent been going back to
his family for all the occasions not even chinese new year.
Till now, none of the in law have ever called to asked me why..
they just treat as nothing happn so hubby 2 treat as ntg
happen..
recently, a married colleague expressed interest in me // and he
really treated me very well .. much better than my husband .. he
said he dont want anything bad to happen to me (while my hubby keep
saying if he is heaven he would like to let me be CHIAK LUK) i
initially tried to pull out of the relationship..but pulling out
had been rather difficult cos we get to see each other every day in
the office. I am now thinking whether to continue or to pull
out .. my brain say stop all these nonsense and my heart said go
for it
how?
The thing is travelling plan is a very small matter, and dont
get divorced becaused of this silly reason.
Is it funny? The two of you are quarrelling over such a small
matter. You are supposed to enjoy yourself going for a tour to
RELAX and yet you are going to the extreme of divorcing over the
"travelling" plan?
I am a guy, I will find you overdo. The thing, it does not
really matter which place I going as long as I am getting the
"Relax" effect that I want. So it is really irriating to have some1
keep complaining over this kind of small matter.
China, Taiwan, Hongkong are good place because "they" speak
chinese. Japan, Vietam dont speak chinese.
Why dont you ask your husband why he wanted to go China and
Taiwan instead?
Why do you keep insisting where you wanted to go and ignore
where your husband wanted to go?
