She doesn't trust guys anymore .. ?

last SG · 2010-04-26T23:32:49+00:00

hmmm... are you sure she likes you as a boyfriend and not as a friend? she scare of getting hurt again so dont want to get into relationship but still very v...

TTFU SG

Anyway refer to Gf problem thread.

goofyzell SG

Then doesnt pay off how ? kill yourself ? can tahan bo

no lah... siao... if she dun treasure you, its her loss.

Good guy came along, dun mind going through hell with her and at the same time, care for her, love her. Its her loss for losing such good guy.

Since she dun treasure you, go find other gals that do treasure you lo.

Typically SG

Actually , there are a few girls that wanted to get involved in a relationship with me ... But , I turned all of them down just for her .

But then again , I only want to be with her ... nobody else .

Fugazzi SG

TS,

If you have something to share, something to offer of yourself without expecting returns - you might be able to have your way. However, from what has been transpiring and what you have posted here - you want to own her. If u love, simply love, unless your love is not love but something else parading and masquerading as love. Look into yourself with a modicum of SELF-HONESTY you would know ..

Also, u state that u had turned others down - as it occurred to u that u are comparing? and sadly it is being neurotic and sooner or later (assuming it pans out in your favour) you would expect her to 'toe your line'' and with her current state of heart - it would sooner or later crash.

She has to deal with her ''demons'' and you have to deal with yours - till then it would be better to remain friendly and allow the other to be. When there are reasons and there are fears - love never abides, at the most it pretends to be.

jojobeach SG

Hi guys , I've been trying to woo this girl for about 6 months now but she doesn't wants to get in a relationship because of her failed relationships in the past . She said that she had already lost trust in guys and relationships .

We've been quite open about it , and I told her that I'll be with her all the way through .

I was thinking if any of you can propose methods or ways so that she can regain back this trust ?

From what I know , she was hurt very badly in her past relationships .

Is there a phobia of getting into relationships ?

Personally , I can get along with her very very well ... but she isn't sort of my girlfriend yet (Not official)

Can I have your advices please

When she's ready to trust, she will trust.

Proposing methods and ways ain't gonna work, especially with em coming from you.

You want to MAKE her trust you, you want to MAKE her love you.

All the more, you ain't trust worthy.

What you have promised her and expected from her.. are exactly what others before you had promised and done as well. Do you think she will believe the same "promise" twice ? You take her as a fool don't ya ?

My advise to you is to leave her be and let time heals her wounded heart.

If she is truly worth your waiting, then wait and stop pressing.

The question is .. DO YOU TRUST HER ?

If ya don't, then why should she trust you?

Alhazi SG

aiya... i meet before this type la. is not she hurt before thats why she dun wan try. is she dun love you enough thats why she dun wan try. if she love u enough no matter how badly she kena hurt before she also can try one.

probably is u love her and she like u then get along well. make her love you by giving her the right feelings. not just be like a friend. you have to do more

Typically SG

Yes , I'm trying to do more ...

But my situation is rather weird in the sense that we're always surrounded by this group of friends ... which is actually quite hindering at times .

jojobeach SG

Yes , I'm trying to do more ...

But my situation is rather weird in the sense that we're always surrounded by this group of friends ... which is actually quite hindering at times .

Hindering ? LOL !

To her, that's exactly wat she wants.. to be surrounded by friends to HINDER advances by annoying boys like you.

Get a grip, you're starting to sound like a pervert.

Whatcha gonna do , rape her when you are alone with her ? Eww.

TTFU SG

Yes , I'm trying to do more ...

But my situation is rather weird in the sense that we're always surrounded by this group of friends ... which is actually quite hindering at times .

From what i can see, quite high chance to fail.... u sure she like you or not ?

Typically SG

Hindering ? LOL !

To her, that's exactly wat she wants.. to be surrounded by friends to HINDER advances by annoying boys like you.

Get a grip, you're starting to sound like a pervert.

Whatcha gonna do , rape her when you are alone with her ? Eww.

nono i think you misunderstood me . group of friends actually refered to the group that we always hang out together ... Clique ?

Just that , the thing about this group is that they really really enjoy bitching about people . Even people within the group itself cannot escape from the bitching . So it's hindering .

AND I do have times alone with her . In fact , plenty

Yes , she did like me before but that was a almost a year ago ...

TTFU SG

Question is now. Now she like you or not. Got gao bai to her or not ?

jojobeach SG

nono i think you misunderstood me . group of friends actually refered to the group that we always hang out together ... Clique ?

Just that , the thing about this group is that they really really enjoy bitching about people . Even people within the group itself cannot escape from the bitching . So it's hindering .

AND I do have times alone with her . In fact , plenty

Yes , she did like me before but that was a almost a year ago ...

Ah.. so the hindering is the bitching of you to her yes ?

You afraid all your dirty secrets gets to her ears doncha ?

Well, ever heard of the saying " Ya don't shit in yer own backyard?"

Are ye one of em taking turns with the girls in yer group and passing them around after ye done ?

She did like you before.. but she ain't now. Tha's the cold hard truth brother.

ChoCoChips SG

i think

what u need to do now

is to keep a bit of a distance

dont go pressuring her ah

say simi

are u rdy now?!

and dont treat her soooo nice like she alr ur gf

Typically SG

Got gao bai ..

Yes , She has feelings for me ... but let me reiterate again , it's because of her problems . It's really been a trauma for her . She told me herself also that she wasn't ready to commit due to her problems .

I'm not trying to press her to , Just giving her the space and time she needs and being there for her .

mlmersrlosers SG

GO FOR IT MAN!!! SHE NEEDS SOME 'THERAPHY' otherwise she turn lesbian or butch how

TTFU SG

Da jia be friend friend lah, you need me i here, if i find another Gf then bye bye. Since u like me, but dont want commit. Then theres no reason for me to keep kenna that hot/cold treatment mah. Dont so obsessed lah, see the obvious wall then still bump into it.

Typically SG

i think

what u need to do now

is to keep a bit of a distance

dont go pressuring her ah

say simi

are u rdy now?!

and dont treat her soooo nice like she alr ur gf

Don't treat her soo nice like my gf is probably 1 area I should improve on . Mind explaining the rationale behind this ... ?

AND from my knowledge it didhurt her to the point that she almost became lesbian . But it happened before we even met or knew each other .

j03r5 SG

TS,

u shldnt actually see ur group of old frens as a hinderance.

infact, it would play to your advantage if you react properly in the right situations.

being around old frens should make it easier for you to be yourself which is a plus point for a girl who says that she cant trust guys because then she will see you for the guy that u are, and not someone just pretending to be someone you're not in order to get her attention.

and it's makes things easier for her as well because then she wouldnt be stressing herself time after time about going out with a guy exclusively as you guys are hanging out together in a group.

it will take time for girls to warm up to your feelings because they don't feel the same way right of the bat unless you look like someone whom she idolises.

if you're really affectionate and care for her, your frens will see it too. friends play a big part when u became attracted to someone in the group. better still if her best friend(s) is also in the group, cause you can ask them to sound her out. If your friends feel that you are genuine at heart, surely they'll put in a word or two for you. of course that's if you also doing things right and not continuously pressing her to accept your advances.

that's really all i can say, cause so far my females friends have complained only about how insensitive a guy is to their feelings when they start wanting to be more than just friends.

peace out.

TTFU SG

Don't treat her soo nice like my gf is probably 1 area I should improve on . Mind explaining the rationale behind this ... ?

AND from my knowledge it didhurt her to the point that she almost became lesbian . But it happened before we even met or knew each other .

Some time when you too obsessed with a girl or love a girl too much, the girl will feel uneasy or somehow play hard to get. Da jia be friend first. Dont keep offering your hot face only to stick it at her cold butt.

Typically SG

TS,

u shldnt actually see ur group of old frens as a hinderance.

infact, it would play to your advantage if you react properly in the right situations.

and it's makes things easier for her as well because then she wouldnt be stressing herself time after time about going out with a guy exclusively as you guys are hanging out together in a group.

it will take time for girls to warm up to your feelings because they don't feel the same way right of the bat unless you look like someone whom she idolises.

that's really all i can say, cause so far my females friends have complained only about how insensitive a guy is to their feelings when they start wanting to be more than just friends.

peace out.

Hi there , thank you for your enlightenment . It really made alot of sense to me . Her best friends are within this group and I would say that they all have positive and negative opinions about me so it isn't easy .

As for TTFU , I go argee with what you say . But I feel that she's starting to take me for granted ...

I have to admit that it's mentally exhausting to have things like these dragging on for so long . But I won't give up because I can see the light at the end of the tunnel and I'm very confident of that .

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