Well, when one loves someone or (does something) or
purports to love and once the reasons for loving - eg, nice
face, feeling secure, feeling 'good' or sex or
... are fulfilled or changes take place (which is in the
nature of living) love would evaporate when the reasons for
.... are no longer there or it is fulfilled. How to sustain when
once is dealing iwth a human being who is subject to the vagaries
of moods.emotions,situations ? Unless one is dealing with some
'thing' already dead. Can be used and put aside and be used again.
Human being?
However, if love was an end unto itself or the 'other' was loved
or is being loved for no reasons -but one is simply sharing one's
state of being. Being what? Being love, Being kind, Being
..... State of being emanates from within (intuitive heart)
and state of mind is having conceptualized models and projecting it
onto another or others. The latter state is divisive and excludes
others when love is concerned. State of being is
inclusive.
As for fears - by that i imply the loss of the other's
fulfilling one or the anxiety of 'being unfufilled in the
future. Love that is feaful is not love, but
needs/expectations/insecurities masqureading as love.
Most probably, one loves or assumes that one is loving but the
need for reciprocation is a must. Also, the likelihood of jumping
into a relationship is hastened cos of insecurity. One enslaves
another and in turn is enslaved. Love that was initially freeing is
suffocating and stultifying. Hence the misery and pain of love.
Lest one forgets - love melts the ego. Ego n love can never
co-exist. One has to go.
As to which stays is telling of the quality of the .....