Talking about depriving this 18 yrs old TS of making any mature
decision that would affect her life.
Do you think TS is aware that being gay/lesbian is abnormal?
By providing the support that TS requested for, aren't you
babysitting TS? Is that really going to help her to make any mature
decision in her life? Does TS knows how is being gay/lesbian going
to affect her future life? Did anyone of you have the courage to
bring this awareness to TS?
If TS insists on being gay/lesbian because she is born to be
gay/lesbian, then I will accept that it is her own choice to live
her life in the way she has chosen.
But if TS is a confused 18yrs old who isn't 100% sure of the
decision that she have made unwillingly or unconsciously, anyone
should have the heart to provide sufficient information regarding
gay/lesbian, instead of encouraging TS down her confused path in
life.
Don't push all the blame to TS and tell her that she should have
realised when she eventually realised in her future. That's
not being responsible to TS at all. You simply cannot come and
fired away your advices based on what you think is right and fair
to TS. You should based your advices in TS's perspective, and ask
yourself questions like .....is she aware of gay/lesbian? Is TS
confused about her own sexual preference? What is causing TS to
feel agony? What is the real reason that TS felt agony? Who is
causing her this agony(TS or her gay lover)?
Many questions need to be asked from TS's perspective, and have
any of you done that?
Don't tell me you come here and help TS with your casually kind
and irresponsible words when it is so on the surface and everyone
can repeat and rephrase and reuse what you had advised TS on every
other TS.
Help only if you truly and genuinely want to help, otherwise
focus on winning fame and honour in this topic. 
As I said, it is not up to us to direct her life for the future.
We can only give her advice. I give mine, you give yours, it is her
to choose who she wants to listen to, or not even to any of us, and
use her own method to resolve her problem. Being homosexual is not
abnormal, so how can TS be even aware of that in the first place?
For TS to conclude that she is a lesbian at this point of time, I
believe she have done her fair share of homework and has her
experience. This is not for any of us to say in the first
place.
The problem now is: She wants to know why is her partner
behaving in this manner, and not whether if she is gay or not. So
why do you keep harping that being gay is wrong when you are not
helping her at all?
As for why ask her to learn from her mistake, is that she would
be the only one who know in future whether is this a mistake or
not, I'm not pushing the blame on to her. She is given a choice, if
she chooses that she wants to live a heterosexual life and that
whether she will end up happy in future or not, she still have to
face the consequences on her own. And that, if she choose to lead
the homosexual lifestyle that she knows she belongs to, she still
have to face the results in future too. Under no circumstances am I
pushing the blame to her.
Right now, I am helping her on the basis that she knows that she
is a gay woman, and that she is seeking help regarding her partner.
And what makes you say she is not 100% sure? In her post, she did
not mention a single thing about her confusion in her sexuality. So
I do not understand why would this homosexuality would kick in, in
the first place.
I think you are the confuse one here. You keep contradicting
yourself, saying in the first few paragraphs that she is confuse,
then you say if she insist that she is homosexual, you will accept,
later on you question whether am I helping her in the first place
on whether am I right on her problem or not. The second part about
she insisting that she is gay, makes me feel like asking you: Are
you sure you are heterosexual? Can you insist to me that you are
heterosexual? I don't believe you are heterosexual. What a joke
-.-
You picture out the thing yourself first before providing
advice. I would not reply any post from you anymore, but only to
TS.
