Age, does it really matters? Ladies comment pls.

last SG · 2010-03-09T09:43:09+00:00

Well.... I think max 10 years older/younger is acceptable.In fact, if you trul love each other, why do you care about your age?There are so many gays and les...

VL SG

VL,

Stop pestering her already.

You may have good feelings towards her, but she is not into you.

You keep repeating yourself one thousand times also will not change her feelings towards you.

Because for a relationship to blossom, TWO hearts must be in sync.

Age is just an excuse.So are many reasons we come up with to reject a guy "gently".

To an older guy we will say " You are too mature for me". To a younger guy we will say " You are too young for me". To a guy same age we will say " It's not you, it's me".

It's just our easy way out instead of saying " NO"

OK ? Good.

How should I ask to get a direct "NO" answer from her?

Perhaps, for me to give up totally.

VL SG

i think she's really just not comfortable being together with a younger guy ba. Maybe prove to her that you are mature than your age and slowly gain her confidence to show that u are serious about her, but she must like u in the first place of course.

How to know if she like me, when she keep escaping from the topic...

一个眼神肯定都没给，要我这么知道该放弃还是坚持下去。。。？

dangerboi SG

Go earn more money and stop wasting time posting such stuffs here

Miss Tiny SG

How to know if she like me, when she keep escaping from the topic...

一个眼神肯定都没给，要我这么知道该放弃还是坚持下去。。。？

I think give up la... u woo her for 1 year alr but to no avail, so she used the final excuse of age gap difference to scare u away. It's just her own way of rejecting u, but dun wanna hurt u in a straightforward way nia.

已经一年了她都无动于衷，是时候放弃了

ViosAngel SG

VL, can I ask u something? Have you met her? It looks like an online wooing thing to me from your various posts and comments. If it is, I advise you to drop it. You will probably get more hurt if u meet up and realise that she is much more then 3 yrs older then you.

However, if it is real life wooing, then 3 yrs gap for an adult is ok. Like many have said if u are 14 and she is 17, then its not right. Age does not matter much in a mature relation. But, sometimes, ladies do use the lamest excuse to brush a guy off if they are not interested at all.

VL SG

已经一年了她都无动于衷，是时候放弃了

But for this one year , I had built up a closer relationship with her. From just exchanging a few sentence, I manage to gain her trust, sharing her personal stuff such as family background and even her past relationship, with me. At least, I am able to see how I close up the gap each day.

What do you think, should really give up?

VL SG

Realife. I'm 20 already, 21 this year ..

VL SG

Go earn more money and stop wasting time posting such stuffs here

Give me a break lar, just done with my exam...

ViosAngel SG

Hmm.. maybe you can consider keeping the relationship platonic for a while more. Maybe she is not ready yet. There are alot of other young ladies for you to get to know and you are not like reaching your 40s and therefore desperate to find a life partner.

Give each other time as platonic friends, find out more abt each other. Sharing her secrets with you does not mean that she is ready to consider you as a bf, she trust you and choose to confide in you, thats all. Dont read too much into that yet, ok?

You could have been wooing her too hard and make her feel cornered. Relax, take a step back.

VL SG

You could have been wooing her too hard and make her feel cornered. Relax, take a step back.

I am not desperate for a life partner, but I am desperate for her , no one else other then her.

I dont have much time left, I need to serve the army soon.

I dont want to lost her to someone else.

Now that I am confident about my future, I want her to fall into hands of other guys.

ViosAngel SG

Ummm... confident abt what future? An unstable relationship is very easy to break when a guy is serving NS.

Being desperate for her does not help, my dear. You will only drive her further away from you. Have a good talk with her and see what she truely wants or if she wants to go into a relationship with you at all or not. If she does not want, then you should move on. You are still very young and I am sure there is a whole bunch of girls out there waiting for you to meet and woo. No such thing as "no one else".

Dont force yourself into a relationship. It does not work that way.

^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~ SG

I am not desperate for a life partner, but I am desperate for her , no one else other then her.

I dont have much time left, I need to serve the army soon.

I dont want to lost her to someone else.

Now that I am confident about my future, I want her to fall into hands of other guys.

ah vl vl...

How confident are u that she wont leave u once u serve the army?

And u're desperate becoz u wan her to be ur gf b4 entering NS?

something not right wor...

^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~ SG

and something to add in another post... I agree with the Viosangel... It does not work that way... having a future does not garentee she'll have to stick to u and only u... being desprate isn't going to help either...

it just does not work that way...

Kenashi SG

I am not desperate for a life partner, but I am desperate for her , no one else other then her.

I dont have much time left, I need to serve the army soon.

I dont want to lost her to someone else.

Now that I am confident about my future, I want her to fall into hands of other guys.

??? U r confident in your future when u r about to enlist in the army?

U r confident u wont find another gal becos u r facing guys all day huh...lol...

Ppl keep breaking up during the NS phase lor, furthermore, it is obvious that she doesnt like u in the first place. stop pestering lah, otherwise, sooner or later, u going to lose her as a friend...

Age is just a lame excuse to reject u lightly, if u cant accept it n want her to tell it straight to your face that she doesnt like u at all, then go ahead n pester her 24/7. She will pour out all her emotions on u, though i am not sure u wan to be on the receiving end..lol....

VL SG

ah vl vl...

How confident are u that she wont leave u once u serve the army?

And u're desperate becoz u wan her to be ur gf b4 entering NS?

something not right wor...

I am desperate because I am afraid she might fall into hands of other guys.

I dont want her to fall into the hands of jerks.

VL SG

??? U r confident in your future when u r about to enlist in the army?

U r confident u wont find another gal becos u r facing guys all day huh...lol...

Ppl keep breaking up during the NS phase lor, furthermore, it is obvious that she doesnt like u in the first place. stop pestering lah, otherwise, sooner or later, u going to lose her as a friend...

I am confident about my future, confident about securing a place in the local U.

I never pester her 24/7, I am doing some reflection here.

Worcer SG

U really love her or just wan her for urself? I once like a girl very much who is also older than me by 4 yrs when i was 17. Only found out that loving a person and liking one is Different.

If ur character suits her.Sooner or later she will love u.All u need to do is to truly love her.Loving a person is not just having her.

If u only like her because afraid of losing her to other guys,u are not really loving her or urself.

Control ur emotion for her.Have a ideal that there is a high chance u will lose her.Do u still love her if u lose her to other guys?Can u still care for her if she is not with u?

If she is worth ur waiting and ur love,let her live her life.U should love and live ur own life.Then only will she feel comfortable with u.

Must see the big picture first.Being together is a very small part.Commiting ur life and soul to it is the real thing.If u cant picture this,grow up first b4 bothering about such infatuation.

^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~ SG

I am confident about my future, confident about securing a place in the local U.

I never pester her 24/7, I am doing some reflection here.

securing a place in the local U... all the money in the world... all the assets are useless if she doesn't love u -____- having all the money and power in the world does not = a happy relationship...

^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~ SG

I am desperate because I am afraid she might fall into hands of other guys.

I dont want her to fall into the hands of jerks.

Ur desperateness will soon turn into obession... then slowly possessive...

I know it pains u if she got hurt by other jerks but if it's her choice, u cant do anything abt it... U cant force her or chained her to a pole...

do u understand wat I'm trying to say? The world does not revolve around u and ur feelings... u need to spare a thought for her as well... Respect her decision... and not everything is justifiable becoz "it's for her own good" etc...

Bak la va SG

Give up now and try to get her back after your studies. I dun see you anywhere with her now. She should be working or finishing her last bit of studies while you, still need to serve NS..... Damn chiam.

Give yourslef n her sometime.

Frankly speaking, I cannot tahan guys that are younger than me. Unless they need to look "Lau" enough.

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