I got involved with a married man few months back. We are kinda
lovely-dovey till things took a turn. We worked in the same
company. He often send me to work and home. Lately, citing some
excuses, he is unable to send me to and fro from work.
I suspect that he thinks I am too clingy and dependant on him .
I would like to raise the issue with him but he refused to talk
about it. Whenever i text him, he took so long to reply. His reply
seems to be shorter than usual. Sometimes I call him after work,
either he cut off my line with an excuse or sms me that he will
talk to me tomorrow. But when tomorrow comes, it is still the same
treatment.
How do I get him to open up and be interested in me once again?
It had been one month since he treated me this way. I dare not to
keep smsing or calling him because I fear he thinks I am
irritating.
Any married guys care to advise? I want to know what went really
wrong.
there are 4 possibilities.
a) his wife found out or is getting suspicious, so he's behaving
himself these days for fear of antagonizing the situation home
front.
b) he realized u were getting too serious n decided to shake
loose n be more unavailable. (typical player tactic imo)
if there's mutual understanding about this before u got
involved, then u should know his priority n time lies with his
family. no point wondering about it now. just understand where ur
relationship with him stands in the big picture n accept the fact
that this is a temporary affair with no possible future. there's no
room n luxury for a conventional bgr commitment here. lower ur
expectations n be prepared to have ur heart broken further down the
road. it's ur choice n ur decision.
c) he's distancing himself because he got scared.
nothing much u can do about this. if he came to the
realization there's too much to lose in exchange for a part time
girlfriend (you), it's only natural for him to pull the plug. move
on. u can't raise his mojo for him if he's pissing in his
pants.
u really need to be on the
same page. since this isn't a mutually exclusive relationship, then
r u a fling? is he a fling? a passing fancy? is there a permanent
arrangement in the future?
d) he has a new target. hr is watching n he received warning. or
tongues are wagging in the office.
the party's over. move on.
if he's the least bit sincere about u, he wouldn't have avoided
u or ended this affair without warning or some closure n
explanation.
snap out of it n get out before u burn ur heart n ur career for
a faint/pointless/meaningless passing affair. for somewhere out
there in the far corner of another forum in the world wide web, his
wife probably has her own thread asking for advice... wondering
what she can do to salvage her marriage with a husband who cheated
but swore he would never cheat again.
*pat pat*