I've been with my bf for 4 months only and I think that I'm
quite dependent on him, and I don't like that feeling.
On our 2nd month, my bf suggested a breakup because he wasn't
used to being in a relationship and had commitment fears (because
I'm his first gf). But after an hour of serious talk, we stayed
together and for the past 8 weeks, we are a very happy &
contented couple.
But recently, it's like a merry go round. Whenever I'm with my
bf, it's bliss. But whenever he disappeared off the surface of the
earth (sleeping, hanging out with friends, concentrating on his
projects), I would feel very needy and lonely though I understand
his needs to have his own time. Sometimes when he takes hours to
reply me or his replies are cold, I would not be able to
concentrate on my work and would often wonder what did I do wrong.
I'm afraid that he would suggest a breakup again or something.
I did mention to him about my insecurities before and he assured
that he loves me truly and he treasures our relationship a lot. I
believe him but I still can't help feeling dependent.
It has come up to the point of affecting my studies because I
can't concentrate on my work. Please help. (And he's entering NS
soon, and I'm afraid I would become more cui after that).
How do I reduce my dependency on my boyfriend?
i guess he is not for u. since he cant give a sense of security
