I'm becoming more and more dependent on my bf. Help! :(

Jellyjellybean SG

HELLO PEOPLE. :) An update.

My relationship have ended. Indeed it was the boy who brought it up, but I'm glad. I wasn't happy in our relationship. Now I feel happier and free, like 解脱.

Although it wasn't a best ending, it is still a happy ending to the love story. We're still friends. And yes, I miss him, especially when walking pass the areas that we always hang out. But I know I'll get over the emptiness because I know that both of us are happier in this way. :D

So people. thank you for your useful advice and everything. This a a closure. :)

HITMAN SG

go keep a cat:)

As romanista2001 SG

HELLO PEOPLE. :) An update.

My relationship have ended. Indeed it was the boy who brought it up, but I'm glad. I wasn't happy in our relationship. Now I feel happier and free, like 解脱.

So people. thank you for your useful advice and everything. This a a closure. :)

so on to the next thread..............'i'm becoming more and more dependent on my LATEST boyfriend, Help!''.................

Jenri619june SG

I think the bf also got problem lah, to be fair to TS.
Why u all just push the blame to her?

Personally, i think he not ready for stead?

I am into a 2 year relationship, my bf finds me somewhat clingy too.
He like any other guy alike feels abit worried wad if i zao wif other guys.

But after talking abt our insecurity, my guy is willing meet up as often as possible and i have been avoiding doing things that may made my guy feel uncomfortable.

like not going out with just guy friends...avoid being too close to my guy friends.
i am sure TS has done something somewhat similar too, i mean all gfs will do so for their guys rite?

See arh, same problem that alot of couples face...

If TS aready done above n talked to the guy le, then the guy no do anything as his part as a bf then how can say its just TS in the wrong leh??

Even if he did something le. personally i see giving up on the relationship just like that a hint that the relationship to him is not much =.= ...

So to TS forget him lah. Take the chance to socialize with more people, get more friends. Who knows u may find a guy that can commit himself better?

Jiayou~ Good luck in pursue of degree.

si3wmai SG

well i think the boy might nt really loved TS wit all his heart… if a guy really loved his gf very much he actually dun mind his gf to cling on him… but not too much that will call him to check on him that kind la..

well TS the sea is so wide, forest so big~~ dont hang on 1 tree or die cuz of 1 fish… you will met some1 better next time..

ribenavodka SG

Are you beautiful? If you are not beautiful, then I can only say you are an idiot who can be easily used by any mean man out there. Why not find a compatible woman and develope that love and dependency ? In this way, you will not be abused by men. The problem lies with you.

Durian_bananas SG

I've been with my bf for 4 months only and I think that I'm quite dependent on him, and I don't like that feeling.

On our 2nd month, my bf suggested a breakup because he wasn't used to being in a relationship and had commitment fears (because I'm his first gf). But after an hour of serious talk, we stayed together and for the past 8 weeks, we are a very happy & contented couple.

But recently, it's like a merry go round. Whenever I'm with my bf, it's bliss. But whenever he disappeared off the surface of the earth (sleeping, hanging out with friends, concentrating on his projects), I would feel very needy and lonely though I understand his needs to have his own time. Sometimes when he takes hours to reply me or his replies are cold, I would not be able to concentrate on my work and would often wonder what did I do wrong. I'm afraid that he would suggest a breakup again or something.

I did mention to him about my insecurities before and he assured that he loves me truly and he treasures our relationship a lot. I believe him but I still can't help feeling dependent.

It has come up to the point of affecting my studies because I can't concentrate on my work. Please help. (And he's entering NS soon, and I'm afraid I would become more cui after that).

How do I reduce my dependency on my boyfriend?

YOu got to get a life ! Your world don't revolve around your bf. Make friends with your fellow gfs at school. Don't just limit your life with your bf.

There's nothing more than a needy and sticky gf that scares off guys. Guys like their own space.

I am sorry to say this but most university or school relationships don't last through to marriage. Most falter. I don't have the stats, but only 2 in 10 relationships among my circle of friends get pass uni and school years to promote to marriage.

Having said this, enjoy your experiences with ur bf while you still can. Learn what guys like. Who knows? If this don't work - you be able to better yourself in the next potential rship. But if it works then I congrat you. Again, i say please don't make your bf the centre of universe. Spend more time with friends, studies and extra curricular activities.

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