We had been together for 6 years and to a point we going to plan
our married but now everything is out of the picture. She told me
that she has totally no feeling for me and cant see the future
between us. I did something bastard back then where i meet a girl
and kiss her on the dance floor and this was 3 years back, when she
forgive me and returned to me I know I wont be seeing another
forever again in my life and i did trully love her whole heartedlly
for the next 3 years. When we come to quarrel I alws think that is
it a form of communication between two of us as we will know each
other better after we make up but i was wrong this will only make
her insecure toward me. I'm such a loser and immature guy to shout
at her whenever we quarrelled and i really learn my mistake.
My heart is going up n down now as i know she wont be coming
back to me so i pray every single day that she will be happy and
find someone who treat her with all the love she deserve from me,
to meet someone who see her alws as i do now jus like Jesus do. In
another hand, i might not be a rich or best guy in the world but i
have the confidence that if i'm able to hold her hands again I will
hold it till we apart and even if she turned into old lady without
any tooths I will still do my very best to make her smile and no
matter what she still the prettiest girl in my heart. I want to
give her happiness with my very own hands.
We finally chat on phone for an hours recently she said that she
can feel the sincere, care and concern for her but she doesnt need
it from me anymore. Everyone asks me to move on without her but my
life wont be complete, My heart ask me to wait as if one day she
come back, our love will be more beautiful and strong.
She told me that she has changed and she's not the girl i like
anymore and i just find out that 'hey, I fall in love with her
again not becos of the past but the current her now' so this give
me another reason to chase her but i scare backfire
Women are forgiving creatures.. but they NEVER forget. And they
DO have a LIMIT.
Arguing is good for understanding each other is an URBAN MYTH if
you take it literally.
There are two kinds of conflict communications- CONSTRUCTIVE and
DESTRUCTIVE.
Apparently, you had been using a very DESTRUCTIVE approach to
her for the past several years. I don't blame her for giving up on
ya.
Being constuctive means you agree to disagree- see the
issue at hand from each other's perspective, understand each
other's needs and come to a harmonious compromise.
Yelling and shouting doesn't solve anything.......
Good luck next try.
