Meaning of this?

last SG · 2010-02-11T03:02:49+00:00

Some courtships move faster than 2/3 weeks. Look, I am not asking you to give up. Probably, you can keep in touch with her as a friend. Do things together as...

mitgalant SG

Hi people, recently i am out with a lady. and well, we kinda can click. so there was this one time when we are out with my friends and so the 5 of us were talking.

While the conversation is travelling across the table and it's kinda noisy. She kinda ask me this qns "are you single?" but i pretend i never heard it and just answer my other friends questions.

Recently she was alittle down and we are talking at msn. so she was kind of quite sad and she just tell me " just be there for me ok? "

so i replied her i will. judging by what she type, i know i might think too much but i really wish to get an answer to it.

Well, to be frank i am interested in her but still getting to know her better.

Is she alittle attracted to me? Or she just treat me as a normal friend? Well for me, i wont go and ask my friend to be there for me unless i am interested in her. That's why i need a woman point of view here.

Thanks alot for the guidance.

FireIce SG

congratz
u are the spare tyre

mitgalant SG

why would you say so? why am i the spare tyre?

Poignant SG

you're in your teens still?

or 20+ alr?

mitgalant SG

mid 20 already.

both working adults already. just thought of seeking some help here. i feel very demoralise too. i duno what she meant by that.

does everyone tell your friends " just be there for me? " i asked my friends, well, some told me, she is alittle interested. some say maybe just friends. but.. 80% told me, no one will ask someone they dont like to be there for them.

sigh.

Poignant SG

got feel anot towards her?

mitgalant SG

ya, like i said. i have feelings towards her. but i still want to know her better.

i duno if she has feelings for me anot though. i doubt so. but if dont have,then why ask me to be there for her?

likeyou SG

2 possible answer:

1) She is bored and she need someone to talk to.

2) She show interest on you, but hesitant.

mitgalant SG

then how to know if a lady is interested in you?

it's a very common qns but very hard to answer qns i guess?

well, normally we go out in groups and we will talk to one another. but so far, from what i see, it's still at the friends stage.

how do i get to the next stage?

likeyou SG

Try to get close to her, but not to discomfort her.

Ask her out for lunch often and get to be close and know her.

mitgalant SG

actually i did tried once. but she could not make it. cos she have work the next day. but it kinda demoralise me.

i was thinking if u are really interested in that person, you will still find time to go out for a short meal. but this issnt the case.

is it normal to get rejected for a meal? i am a person that will think alot that's why i am kind of very demoralise now. like i dunno what else i should do. my feelings is getting deeper per day. sigh

jojobeach SG

actually i did tried once. but she could not make it. cos she have work the next day. but it kinda demoralise me.

i was thinking if u are really interested in that person, you will still find time to go out for a short meal. but this issnt the case.

one innocent rejection only you get demoralized.. where's your balls bro ?

Ask her out again lah.

If she rejects you 3 times.. then confirm she not interested in you loh.

When you avoided her question... she already think you "taken".. so she ofcors won't make any more advancements lah.. so simple lah brah.

Airry SG

confess..

mitgalant SG

actually she know i'm single now.

just that i am wondering only. the sentence of asking me to be there for her seems so hard to understand.

sigh, headache

kcockicht SG

usually when i start with a girl first few years try to go with her alone. also if have to join her friends or my friends i will be mindful about who they are. i should know my friends character well. same for relative. falling in love with one another sometime is hard enough going steady. freidns and relatives really complicate things.

mitgalant SG

huh. but she not my relative. lols haha

no la,i just wanna make sure she is interested in me before i proceed further. else also no point. sigh, i am pondering abt this the whole night. so many different answer.

like one member wrote, she is interested but hesitant. why is she hesitant?

and also i think she might really treat me just a friend. but do we say this to a friend? i dont say this unless i really like that person.

kcockicht SG

she her mind only the youngsters can understand. like immitate those actor and actressess in those westerne and chinese or maybe malay and tamil dramamas you know. so its very difficult for me to touchon what's going on in her mind. probably she's like watch oo much show so the mind get isdeas form those silly shows. like me adult will be different coz after i watch the show i forget about it. even if i do anything also i know what is minimum right or wrote.

Mr Milo SG

TS, you have her contact number right?

call her loh

likeyou SG

actually i did tried once. but she could not make it. cos she have work the next day. but it kinda demoralise me.

i was thinking if u are really interested in that person, you will still find time to go out for a short meal. but this issnt the case.

Just a meal rejection.

Ask her next time.

Dont give up if you are serious on relationship.

Mr Milo SG

Just a meal rejection.

Ask her next time.

Dont give up if you are serious on relationship.

sorry for diverting a little....but if it is LDR how?

how to continue?.....

too tough