Recently, I knew a guy.
He was very interested in me upon meeting me and proceeded to fix
our first date the following week. I was rather impressed by the
degree of interest he has shown in me.
He is rather good-looking and I thought he was interested and
genuinely keen to know me better. During out first date, he asked
if he has any chance to be with me and whether I am willing to be
his gf. He claimed to like me and find that we could click and I'm
suitable for him.
I was taken aback by his pro-activeness. I told him we have only
met once and its too fast for me to decide if we could be together.
Nonethless, i told him that im keen to hang out with him as friends
and know him better. He agreed. We held hands though. It was
strange that after I have turned down his proposal to be his gf, he
appeared distanced, quiet,bored,withdrawn and cold in our dates. I
made many attempts to know him better and talk to him, but he gave
one-line replies. He did not ask me any questions to know me
better. It was like he was there physically but his heart was
elsewhere. I couldnt deduce from his weird behaviour during our
dates.
He will sms me to send his regards like every alternate day.
However his sms were extremely short.I tried to initiate a
conversation over sms but was unable to do so. Over time, i began
to suspect whether he was geninuely interested in me and likes me.
I confronted him, and he asserted that he really likes me.
After our third date, I began to develop real feelings for him. But
i was confused over his blatantly nonchalance attitude during our
dates. No eye -contact, no conversation, appearing sianz and even I
caught him beoing girls right infront of me. I decided to tell him
about my feelings. To my surprise, he told me that we should give
each other opportunities to know others better. He asked me to
participate in more social activities, and that I should try to
know other guys who are better than him.
Im very sad about his rejection, I told him we could still get to
know each other better but he turned me away.
Hence I have two questions on my mind which I would need to ask
male forumites here
:
(1) Why did he reject me and turn me away when I confessed to him?
(even to the extend of asking me to know other guys and not wanting
to know each other better as friends?)
(2) What are his true intentions and attitude towards me? If he
likes me, why rejects me, and if he doesnt like me from the start,
why lead me on?
Hi bigthumbfoot,
I cannot tell for sure, since I am not a guy. But I suspect that
it is just as what Jason has thoughtfully pointed out - It is an
ego thing.
From the time you rejected him, his ego was already hurt to the
point where he starts to dislike you, and thus he tries not to talk
much to you, and gave you short replies instead. This point will
likely be true if the dates are initiated by you.
Since he has already ask for you to look for other better guys,
you should take up that offer and forget about him. He is certainly
not ready for a proper relationship yet.
Cheers.