relationship problems

Crappylogy SG

hi , i need some help cuz my relationship with a classmate juz fell into the pits.i knew her since sec 1 and i got to admit that i was'nt that into her at that point of time. But after the march holidays , my teacher changed our sitting arrangement and i've been sitting with her ever since . shes a really great girl . shes also the first and only girl who bought me presents when its my birthday besides my mum. she was lky my best friend then . when ever theres projects , she would offer me a place in her group cuz everybody got into their groups and its either i solo or join them. Shes really awesome and i regretted not appreciating her earlier on. Its was during the sec 2 june holidays that i began to think of her everyday, infact i miss her a whole lot . however when i got back to school , my teacher changed the sitting arrangement into rows of three. A ''friend'' of mine is now sitting beside her.At first it was nothing , in fact i enjoyed his company . but soon things turned out for the worse. At first the girl started talking to my friend a hell lot . then she tend to ignore me . i was fine with that. Then when it was her birthday , the friend of mine actually asked '' HEY ANNA HOW YOU WANT TO SPEND YOUR BIRTHDAY?'' she actually replied that she wanted to go to the movies and asked him along. yea i was pissed and sad at the same time. i went to the toilet and tried to control myself . it was one of the worst day of my entire life . and after the exams , my stupid asshole teacher changed the sits again . and im still sitting beside her . Shes a totally changed person . every time i ask her something the answer would either be i duno or she juz gives me a blank look . when ever theres free time , i can find her at the back of the class talking to the ''friend'' of mine and having fun =.=. the Sat 3 weeks ago , i was on carpark duty cuz its the school open house . and to my horror,when one of the buses that are leaving for the location of the cip pass by the school gate , i saw her and my ''friend'' sitting together laughing and teasing each other. i was utterly devastated and immediately asked my platoon mate to take over my position.

whats worse, shes in the same class as me next year and i duno how to face her. someone pls help me so that i can get out of this predicament and get over her before the classouting which is coming very soon...

parn SG

What do you hope to achieve together in your relationship with your female friend?

IF you like her, make sure you do everything within your power to MAKE HER LIKE YOU first before you blur blur go and confess to her when the doors to her heart are still closed to you.

Talk more to her, a smile can do wonders to help relieve the tension and remove the awkwardness between both of you and can also become the invisible bridge needed for this potential friendship.

DO NOT IRRITATE HER no matter how tempted you may be, unless she's comfortable and relaxed with you, you are more likely to irritate her for real if you tried to attract her attention by doing so.

Join her in the canteen if she's alone, buy her a drink if she doesn't have one. Share your eraser with her and halve it if you need to.

Care for her like your good friend and close cousins and siblings, but minus the physical contacts. Do not take her NO as a form of rejection because it may be necessary and needed to reject your lame requests and suggestions.

Do not take everything seriously, and do not be overly zealous about her. It's better for you to be the cool guy and give her room to think about you instead of trying to squeeze yourself into her mind forcefully.

Good Luck.

storywolf SG

Relationship take 2 hands to claps.

You seem to be over jealous over your female friend and your friend.

Let it be, they are 2 individuals with their own like and character, you cannot force your preference on them.

Trying to do anything will make things worst, and your jealous is actually pushing them further away from you and closer together.

Rock^Star SG

she pissed that u never make ur move la. so now u know she's not as angelic as u thought she was. Just ask to change seats la......say u wan to have a broader view of the classroom and ask to sit behind. Heh.

Crappylogy SG

thx ppl for the advice , now i juz wish that things would return to normal and she returns to her old self =[

SBS2601D SG

It's times like these, you tell yourself to look forward, not backward.

TrueHeart SG

thx ppl for the advice , now i juz wish that things would return to normal and she returns to her old self =[

Hi Crappylogy,

I hope you will not mind me saying this - You cannot force others to change, but you can change your own self. You cannot force her to be girl whom you previously know, but you can learn how to move on.

It is evident that you have strong feelings for her, thus you are upset that she is close to another guy, and no longer close to you.

Please do pardon me for saying so, it is not a good time for you to start a relationship right now. It will not be easy for you to get over her, especially when you will be seeing her everyday, but you should try to focus more on your studies instead.

Cheers.

CannyOng SG

Prove to her u can actually live better and happier without her in your heart.

Prove to her that she choose to ignore u is wrong by living even a more meaningful life. Treat yr future gf like a gem to even prove her further wrong for not being with u.

Stand up like a man. Left yr boyhood behind.

Mybluemoon SG

you're young, what for spend and waste your time on puppy love?

dangerboi SG

I assume you're less than 20 years old..

love is a game...hate the players not the game..

2cansam SG

ur only 14, natural for you to feel discomfort with Anna.

Crappylogy SG

i found this song by chris daughtry on youtube , it rly makes me feel better =] go check it out

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_tnzTCWpp0k

Swiftwinds95 SG

pheeoner SG

I'd suggest you put this issue behind you. You're gonna spend semesters and semesters w her, outings and outings w her. Probably keep reminding yourself that it's already over and you can't do anything about it, so might as well forget it.

DouglasBitMeFingerBoomz SG

ugh guys no offence. bt i think the hardest thing crappylogy is facing is not that he cant get over her, bt its rather that he's stuck with her for the next year. its easy to forget peop when they're nt with u anymore, bt if u can see the person who ur pissed off with at the corner of ur eye its really not easy to forget her.

DRC SG

Reading your post reminds me of my past, while I was young I did the same thing as you. Now that I have grown up, I realise how silly I was back then. Mark my words bro 10 years from now, you will feel the same way.

It takes time to learn about love. It is thru pain and suffering then you will learn to treasure what is the true meaning of love.

You like her that is why you feel the hurt she is with someone else. Either you accept it and move on to another gal or stay and fight.

If you chose to stay and fight, learn to know your enemy well, study him.

Ask yourself why she talks to him?

Why is she always around him?

Is he really better than you?

Are you willingly to change your ways in order to be closer than her?

Understand yourself. Study your strength and know your weakness.

lonestar86 SG

you're young, what for spend and waste your time on puppy love?

agree. TS is still so young. TS, i think it's better for u to concentrate on ur studies right now.

learn to control ur emotions. do not allow ur emotions to control u.

soleachip SG

hi , i need some help cuz my relationship with a classmate juz fell into the pits.i knew her since sec 1 and i got to admit that i was'nt that into her at that point of time. But after the march holidays , my teacher changed our sitting arrangement and i've been sitting with her ever since . shes a really great girl . shes also the first and only girl who bought me presents when its my birthday besides my mum. she was lky my best friend then . when ever theres projects , she would offer me a place in her group cuz everybody got into their groups and its either i solo or join them. Shes really awesome and i regretted not appreciating her earlier on. Its was during the sec 2 june holidays that i began to think of her everyday, infact i miss her a whole lot . however when i got back to school , my teacher changed the sitting arrangement into rows of three. A ''friend'' of mine is now sitting beside her.At first it was nothing , in fact i enjoyed his company . but soon things turned out for the worse. At first the girl started talking to my friend a hell lot . then she tend to ignore me . i was fine with that. Then when it was her birthday , the friend of mine actually asked '' HEY ANNA HOW YOU WANT TO SPEND YOUR BIRTHDAY?'' she actually replied that she wanted to go to the movies and asked him along. yea i was pissed and sad at the same time. i went to the toilet and tried to control myself . it was one of the worst day of my entire life . and after the exams , my stupid asshole teacher changed the sits again . and im still sitting beside her . Shes a totally changed person . every time i ask her something the answer would either be i duno or she juz gives me a blank look . when ever theres free time , i can find her at the back of the class talking to the ''friend'' of mine and having fun =.=. the Sat 3 weeks ago , i was on carpark duty cuz its the school open house . and to my horror,when one of the buses that are leaving for the location of the cip pass by the school gate , i saw her and my ''friend'' sitting together laughing and teasing each other. i was utterly devastated and immediately asked my platoon mate to take over my position.

whats worse, shes in the same class as me next year and i duno how to face her. someone pls help me so that i can get out of this predicament and get over her before the classouting which is coming very soon...

aww...

watching out for ur crush in the canteen during recess...

secretly spying on which school bus she's in and who she's with on school excursions...

half hoping you wind up in the same class next year...

missing her during the school holidays...

looking out for her on CCA days...

staying back in school to watch her train in the school field...

screaming your lungs out and cheering for her on sports day...

this brings to mind a song by donny osmond.

dear crappology, she was really sweet on you with the birthday gift. why be this miserable guy who never makes her laugh? if you really like her, the least you can do is get her a christmas present, tell her she's wonderful and make her laugh.

why pull a long face and sulk in the toilet when the other guy makes you jealous?

be chirpy, ask her out to the movies and go have mac donalds together. if she rejects you, well, at least you tried, right?