Hi TrueHeart,
I'm quite hot headed (reckless) and I wish to overcome
it.
I usually get into arguments when the other party taunts me
or irritates me. I try to avoid arguments most of the time by
trying to be accomodate to others, but it will start when the other
party cross my limit.
When I try to accomodate them, they start to crawl on top of my
head. How to avoid if the other party doesnt know when to stop?
Sometimes its also my fault. Like this afternoon, I got into a
quarrel with a cab driver and his family. The incident goes like
this: the cab driver was sitting in his cab waiting for his wife.
His son then opens the door and knocked my car. I was angry that
the cab driver didnt care. I opened my car door
and purposely knocked his and went down to check my door
if its ok. There's a scratch resulting from the knock and I'm quite
upset about it. Then he came down from his cab and we started to
quarrel.
I am quite upset by his act blur attitude when his son knocked
my car.
After the incident, I did a self reflection and found that
I'm at fault.
I could have handled the situation better and in a more
mature way by highlighting the issue to him politely as his
son could not have done it on purpose as he is only a
kid.
But my emotions gets over me and I cant think properly when the
incident happens.
Hi Jobangel,
From this incident, I can see that you are a very impulsive
person. You must learn how to think calmly and analyse the
situation first before taking any action which you will regret
later.
Even though it is a very basic and simple strategy, you could
try counting to 10 before doing anything else the next time
something similar happens, and then think through about what just
happened before planning a series of actions to be taken.
Cheers.