My brother is using subutex. I've known it for more than 6
months and so have my family. The thing is, when my parents
confront him abt it, he will throw into a hissy fit and deny. I
know he's using because of the way he's reacting and found his
hiding place for those drugs as well. After using the syringe, he
would throw it out of the window. So yea, I'll know he's using.
My parents cant do anything abt it as they are getting older. My
brother is 34 this yr. How to really make him listen? He's as
stubborn as a mule.
The more worrying part is his health. He has loss the ability to
move his left fingers. They are as stiff as rock.
He earns $3,000 per month excl. CPF, but claims that he's paying
the utility bills etc to other ppl when in fact my parents are the
one supporting him. Giving him the excuse to borrow money here and
there. Even my ailing sick grandma gave in to him, once in 3 days
he would borrow $20-$50 from my grandma and other relatives.
And when he is desperate, he would even borrow $6 from me and
didnt return it back. I am currently unemployed. He always wants to
find fault abt me esp abt my unemployment and yet he stills borrows
money from me!
We did an intervention more than 5 times already. He will deny
it until we show proof. he would then admit and say he'll change,
and the next hr, he'll be shooting high.
He's body is full of syringes scars. He's recently married and
his wife had a miscarriage due to stress. He's been in prison
before for heroin. And didnt even tell his wife abt his past.
My gut tells me to report him to the CNB before he causes more
harm to our family and himself. But I am scared, what if this
breaks my family apart? What should I do?
I am saddened that it had to happen to you and your family. But
the scourge of drugs addiction had not just affected you, but many
other families as well. And many a father, mother, brother or
sister faces dilemma such as you are facing now - to report or not
to report. No human wants to see another suffer, worse if he is
related to you by blood. Cold turkey is not an easy treatment. It
would be a living hell for any human. Then the years in jail, worse
if he ends up mixing with the wrong jailbirds, either to suffer in
their hands or fall into their nefarious activities once out of
prison.
But a far worse fate awaits him if he is not sent for treatment
and rehabilitation. And that is what addiction will do not only to
him, but everyone he knows, thru his non-repayable loans, his
severely damaged reputation and health, the dangers his family
faces when debts go unpaid, the desperation as he finds ways and
means to get his 'fix'.
Do the right thing please. Drug addiction is a terrible evil to
be inflicted on mankind. Make that call to CNB the moment you see
him with drugs on his hand or partaking it as evidence.
You are not sentencing him to a bad fate. You will be liberating
him and giving him a life deserving of a human. You need not even
admit you made that call. Ignorance is bliss.
BUT you MUST ALWAYS be there for him while he is in prison,
because families and blood kin are the necessary ingredients for
proper rehabilitation besides what prison rehabilitation management
policies can do.
Only when he feels he is not alone, and that you all still care
about him and love him, can he be fully weaned off addiction,
otherwise he will only turn to others for comfort and solace - his
fellow cell mates whom none cared or would care except to use and
abuse others.
Make that call. You are giving him the precious gift of a
renewed life and hope.