Hmm...
Yeah....it's likely that he may become my brother-in-law
(although I wont say it's 100% certain yet due to various
factors)
I used to be neutral to him, I did not have any negative
impressions of him, but I started to develop an annoyance because
he did vist very often.
How often is often?
Almost everyday visit, come inside, stays for some time, during
weekdays. Weekdays usually on evenings.
During weekends, almost can be the whole day until night time or
late night. Sometimes cooking also.
At this time I was already feeling a bit uncomfortable. Because
he almost become a permanent fixture, and that is a bit intruding
to my privacy.
Also, something happened.....
Well....they had a couple fight...regarding some marriage
arrangement / planning and discussion....Actually a couple fight is
not unusual and I dont really feel it's special...but the substance
was rather serious, and I had some concerns about my sister's
future...but maybe this should be a separate topic.....
But after witnessing that negative event, and including a
further complication, my mother inadvertently got involved, and in
fact was scolded by him, my feeling towards him turned to
overwhelmingly negative.
Now they have patched up, and now he is visiting again.
But you can understand my impression to him is very ambivalent
now.
I am a little bit confused because I'm not sure whether I should
talk to my sister and tell her that his visits is intruding my
privacy. On one hand I want to do that, but on the other hand, she
is my younger sister and I love her, and I want to be a good elder
bro. It seems that I should just tolerate it and just sacrifice a
bit. I'm really not sure whether I would be too selfish and unwise
if I bring it up to her.
I dont know what I should do.
Hi Veggie Bao,
It seems that the main catalyst which caused your sense of
unhappiness towards him is due to the fact that he scolded your
mother. Thus, now you feel that you will rather have someone like
him stay away as far as possible from you.
Unless he starts up anything again, or show anything about
himself that will make you want your sister to stay away from him,
it will be not advisable for you to bring this up to your sister.
If she were to bring this up to her boyfriend, you may just become
the catalyst which caused another strain in their relationship. In
short, you may end up being viewed as a "spoiler" by your younger
sister.
Cheers.