I have lived in Sg all my life , and i was trying to suprress my
desires for a long time with regards to relationship in
the past.
I have never been in any relationship before as I still can't
find the right guy. When I say the right guy , it means someone who
have to have looks. I have been very attracted to japanese since
young. Koreans later, when korean movies came to Sg channels.
To say the truth i had never been attracted by any Sg male artistes
in my life, Sg guys are really not my cup of taste. I notice I
have always been genuinely attracted to fair skinned guys with
smaller eyes in the past coupled with attractions to caucasians as
well if it is the big eyed guys.
Life is becoming rather depressing to me as I am very lonely.
Also in terms of culture, there is not much here. It's very
boring place to be in. There are few occasions where i saw some
China guys who are tall and fair skin and very good looking in Sg
mrt train. It is such a pleasure to look at them. I am so happy for
the influx of foreign talents in Sg so that MRT rides are not
boring anymore.
The thing is i don't know how to start making friends with the
guys i had interest in. Most of them seem so incontactable as they
are merely strangers, but strangers which left a yearning in me to
want to know them. I am approaching early thirties and almost half
class of my school mates are married now with babies.
I know I will never marry a guy whom i have no physical
attraction for and i am rather old now. Most girls marries at
23~30, life here is so boring and becoming depressive now. Because
much as I like japanese guy, i don't know how to have one, and do u
think u can help me ? Because i am getting very sick and bored and
depressive of things here. Sg man are very weird to me, it seems
till my love life is completed, I can start living normal and feel
more complete in my life as a woman.
I know there are significant differences in the northern asia
facial features, theirs are more sharper features & more
defined cheek bones, and bony contours on their faces instead of
the roundish and flatter face which are not as chiselled in
the soouthern part of Asia. In terms of complexion they
have fairer and nicer skin and nicer build. And yes! the northern
part has very nice and attractive eyefolds of singlelids arching
upwards coupled with their angle of bony contours of their eye
region which is very attractive to me and so different from the
southern people.
I really need help because the situation has reached to a point
where i just find Sg sucky to be in because I can't find any men
here. It is getting rather bad as I feel like sleeping and never
waking up, no motivation, no meaning to everything if I can't get
what I want in this 5 years time.
Do you think it is possible to marry late and have healthy birth
and how much later for a woman? I really want to have kids and I am
already 28. I am now feeling very sick and down. Pls help me. Most
of people i know told me that Jap guys only go for jap woman ,
is it true ? Where can I go to have the possiblity of dating them
?
Hi MinTan,
I know that this your personal choice and I have absolutely no
right to prevent you from doing so, but I will strongly suggest and
hope that you will think through clearly before making such a
choice.
Having a handsome or a cute face does not mean that a man has a
good heart or will treat you well and love you. There are many
women who choose to go after these men, without actually finding
out what kind of a person they are first, and ended up losing both
their body and their money to these unscrupulous scums.
If you are truly persistent in looking for such a man, then I
will advice that you try to find a job in Korea/Japan first, and
get a working pass and work there for a while first before making
any decision. To be a PR in these countries, you will have to live
there for at least 10 years, and a citizenship is given only if you
married someone who is a citizen.
I certainly hope that you will not regret your decision in the
years to come.
Cheers.
