Love does not come easy or without obstacles.
How many relationships will you want to fail when each time you
run away from obstacles?
Ultimately, it is your life, and you will have to consider if
you truly love the girl. If you do, then any obstacles you face is
worth goining thru, and when you succeed, so much the feelings and
experience you gain, and the more you will treasure your love and
be treasured.
1.Parents love their kids, this is an undeniable fact, and will
do anything to protect them. Rather than to comment on the 'wall'
you face, criticise and judge them on their 'rules', firstly, find
out the roots of such 'rules'.
Just like your own country, there will be the dissatisfied, who
would rather criticise than to offer solutions. Some worse, will
talk with a sweet mask with sweet lips and honeyed words to change
others peception about one's country, without offering credible
solutions
Rules are only guidelines, and not cast in stone. If you can
present a better solution, I am sure her parents will listen to you
and let you try out any change if necessary, but first you must
prove yourself worthy of their trust.
There must be a reason for the 2 years wait. If you can find out
the root reason why, and with intelligence, patience and worthy
actions, you will be able to convince that it is not necessary.
But if their arguements are solid, then what is 2 years to see
the sincerity in you if you truly love? After all, love is
eternal.
2. Romance and love should go together. It is about building
strong relationships and ties, whereby both families can be joined
in your union. There is no need to separate families.
I do find her parents strange, but again, no 2 persons think
alike. You will need to discover the roots of such behaviour. Is it
because of race, religion and language, etc? The older generation
do not think like us, for they had not been taught the bonds we
this generation are taught and built with.
If there are any discriminations or ignorances, then it is your
duty to correct it with patience and time. It will not happen
overnight, but over time, by your sincerity and integrity.
Do simple acts, - such as giving gifts to her family side, such
as cakes, sweets, etc. Arrange both sides of parents and relatives
to join in safe activities, such as national health runs or jogs,
so that they may met and get to know one another better.
Face to fac efforts often can help
bridge differences, and you will be the best bridge.
Communications is the most important factor in any relationship. As
you are an educated man, it isnt all about money, but what you do
with your education that gets you respected as a man.
Be not a quitter, or a liar, or a con person with a hidden
agenda. Rather, use that knowledge aquired to make the world a
better place, beginning with your very own family that you will be
building up soon.
As long as you tried, and really did your best, others will
understand and respect you. But to walk away, I say again - how
many obstacles will you run away from, or pour sour grapes over
them?
Good luck. I sincerly wish you all the best and may you succeed
in your efforts. It's your life, a precious and worthy one, not
because you are educated, but because you have found your love and
can love in return, capable of doing what it take to protect that
love.
