ur playing with fire. I dun see this going anywhere except
divorce and cheated by prc gal. wa u best...u really want her
to work in ur office? I know u not serious just only want to
screw her is it?
one more article to wake u up:
WHAT do you do when you have cheated on your wife?
Send flowers or chocolates?
Mr Clarence Lee, 36, a sales executive, chose to go public, with
an advertisement in The New Paper's Cats Fastads section on
Wednesday. In it, he declared his eternal love for his wife, 27,
and sought her forgiveness.
'I've never done anything like this before in my life,' he said.
'She always says I don't admit my mistakes, so I'm making a public
apology to her now.'
The advertisement, which cost $107, had more than 200 words to
his wife of six years.
He wrote, perhaps hoping to impress her more with the gesture
than with language skills: 'I'm really sorry deep from the bottom
of my heart and I will repent and know my mistake. If I could turn
back time I will never do those mistakes again and will cherish you
and your love for me.'
Mr Lee cheated on his wife with a karaoke hostess two years ago.
At that time, he said he frequented karaoke clubs with his friends
and would party late into the night.
'Why did I cheat? I think it was the thrill, but it's something
I have regretted ever since,' admitted Mr Lee, sadly.
His infidelity was discovered by his wife, who hired a private
investigator to find out why he was keeping so many late
nights.
She was seven months pregnant at the time. Recalled Mr Lee: 'She
blew her top and wanted a divorce. She also moved out of our home
for three days.'
However, Mr Lee said he managed to persuade her to stay on.
But he believes the incident caused his wife to lose trust in
him. Even after the affair had ended and Mr Lee no longer kept late
nights, his wife continued to be suspicious and would check his
phone, he said.
There were good times, nevertheless.
For instance, his wife gave him two stuffed bears holding a red
heart with the words 'I Love You' earlier this year, said Mr
Lee.
But it seemed as though she could not forget what happened.
In July, to Mr Lee's shock, his wife again asked him for a
divorce, telling him she still couldn't put the incident behind
her.
This time she insisted. The couple signed their divorce papers
two weeks ago and he moved out of the condominium where they had
been living with their two children.
Will she change her mind?
Mr Lee, who is staying with a friend now, said with a sigh:
'Although I repented and ended the affair immediately, it was hard
for her to put the incident behind her.'
Taking out the advertisement was his last-ditch attempt to get
her to change her mind. He said: 'The divorce will take a few
months to finalise, so I'm really hoping she can forgive me and
take me back.'
His wife has seen the advertisement, but she has not changed her
mind - 'yet'.
He said: 'She said she was touched, but it was too late. She
told me that she could not afford to have her heart broken
again.'
His wife declined to comment.
Counsellors The New Paper spoke to said they haven't come across
such a public apology before. Mr Harry Low, senior counsellor at
the University Health Centre (The National University of Singapore)
said: 'This could be a way in which he could score points, because
it lets his wife know he is serious and willing to go to that
extent.'
However, he added: 'You need to make ten times the effort to
regain the trust. Tell your partner where you are going and inform
them if you are late.
'It can be troublesome, but after a betrayal, these actions are
necessary.'
Ms Elsie Chua, executive vice-president of Cats Classified
(Marketing Division) at Singapore Press Holdings said though public
apologies usually involve legal issues, such ads have appeared
before.
This article was first published in The New
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