moving on -the express track-

actualization~ SG

my gf broke off with me recently, then barely 2 weeks she got together with another dude she just knew maybe for a 3 weeks..

that dude is better gd looking, richer and her type of guy(the kind that looks like her first bf).. (im not ^^)

since things will be happier for her ive decided not to bother her with history.. she told me she is the kind who can move on very fast..

is that true guys? apparently i cant.. therefore things become very fustrating for me... some ppl might suggest that shes just going for the greener pastures but its not the case (i too hope that shes that flawed character so that i can move on better) cos during our time together she showed the most commitment i have ever seen... the kind which is very rare nowdays.. but then again they are better liar if they wanted to..

any expierence guys/gals out there can tell me? whats the deal really is? i'm not a gd man.. but i will become better.. this time I dun need other fishes or trees in the ocean or forest.. i need to know whats her theory really about.. its true.. or im jus another suxker got punch by her..

jojobeach SG

my gf broke off with me recently, then barely 2 weeks she got together with another dude she just knew maybe for a 3 weeks..

that dude is better gd looking, richer and her type of guy(the kind that looks like her first bf).. (im not ^^)

since things will be happier for her ive decided not to bother her with history.. she told me she is the kind who can move on very fast..

You sux. She found a better guy. End of story.

actualization~ SG

i know... yes i sux.. no excuses.. I think you roughly knew what happen.. i hate myself for being like any other suxer out there to only realised what i've lost after its gone.. i didt make the post to self pity or what cause I know since its a "I sux" case.. i will have to become a better man..

maybe im selfish to say it this way but i still wanan know if that very woman whom knock senses onto me really did truthfully love me once? i may have the answer in my heart already but jus wanted to see if theres similiar experiences..

yea the story end now.. but no matter how long it takes.. how huge the effort needed for it and how much improvment i need to see in myself.. i will flip back the last page of the story and continue it one day...

jojobeach SG

Your ex was committed to you , yes ? Then yes indeed she loved.

But for love not returned, it soon withers and dies.

No love can fluorish nor grow, amidst those hurts and lies.

A lesson learned is worth it's weight in gold.

What you learned today you apply tomorrow.

She left you a better person, so you will not again be in sorrow.

bladez87 SG

some poeple are like this de. i have friends who from the time i know until now, havent been single for more than a month at a time. so different people different behaviour. just accept it.

Fugazzi SG

One can think all that one is incline to. One can project all that one was or is going to be. Reality is what one being now.

PS: Ts - she gave u a 'centre' - which u never had or misinterpreted as emanating from within u. Now she is gone u are on the verge of collapse. In this instance it was a gal, add on ..... it is the same conundrum/predicament

When I say centre - i mean this lar - eg., your job, your car, your parents, your friends .... add on what comes to your mind. These are propping u up and u feel good.This is an ego trip. The price - u have unwittingly surrendered your sense of being to others and things outside of u. Try as u might it will work for awhile and u may feel 'good' but the moment all these are gone or sth goes 'wrong' u are going to feel miserable. This is the nakedness of existential truth.

(If u can) understand, accept and in the very knowing an inner transformation would take place within u. Patience is a virtue that is worth embracing!

flapdoodle SG

probably she was the rare commited kind before, not necesarrily a liar when she was with u. Until Singapore "economic reality" came down hard on her. As with most women ( though some exceptions), she took the expected route to settle down.

actualization~ SG

I used to take the word "commitment" too much of face value..

its really far more than that.. and why I have to truly understand after i lost her...

Im a habitual liar when it comes to the word "regret".. I can go to a ger whom i used to slept with and tell her 10 things I regret about not being with her and it actually meant nothing..

Now this is one thing i truly regret in life.. its so painful that I cant even open up my bloody mouth to tell her.. yea the "lesson learned is worth it's weight in gold" and both the gold and the weight will be in my heart for as long as im alive now..

I only wish that rare second chance will occurs..no matter what or how long it takes..

fugazzi: I agreed and believe that true happiness comes from within.. but if true love gotta function the same way.. then its not worth the tears and joy of all those who seek it..

and no.. economic reality got nothing to do with it i'm sure of that..

Fugazzi SG

TS - love never hurts , it is needs, expectations lar - parading as love. No one is here to fulfil - one is here to fulfil him/her destiny or to become what he/she wants to be.

^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~ SG

She was ur everything... Now u lost ur "everything", naturally u'll be feeling lost...

It takes 2 hands to clap, and suddenly one day she found out you're not wat she wants... I can only ask u to move on... Nthing much to do, nthing much to reflect online...

No one here can know wat she's thinking of as we all dunno her... So if u're looking for confirmation to say "it's not your fault" or "she's a liar" etc etc, I doubt u'll get it...

laURanaBabe SG

give urself sometime mourne and then move on.

Look at the brighter side of things ya? dont dwell on what is past :)

do things that make u happy and u will feel better soon.

Take heart.