1. You know what you want and am sure of what you are looking
for in a guy. Riches, good career, or even looks, coupled with
honesty does not move you, as rightly so, for love cannot be forced
upon by either material or emotional needs. Never ever love someone
out of pity or it will be a lifetime of regret for both. Let each
be free to find the right one.
2. You have a spontaneous and lively character, which is
revealed candidly by your afiliation for tomboyish behavior. You
are looking for someone that is similar to your character traits as
a life partner, which is right.
Staid, solid respectable guys may be a good catch, but on the
other hand, they may prove a bore. Characteristics traits are made
during the formative years as a child, and it will be difficult, if
not impossible to change overnight or in a few years.
Your character may be attractive to him, but it may be a bore
for you, more so if you need to live with him till old age,
espacially when you are still young with a full life ahead. Both
your characters will clash constantly, and eventuality, love
dies....
3. Your friends did the right thing, in their perspective to
help a friend, for both of you to get close, but it is your life
and only you can make that decision. No one else should do it for
you. They may give you the best counsel, but it is not what you
want in life. So tell them honestly to back off a little, and let
you make your own decision.
4. I believe you are still young, regardless if you are 18 or
80. It is one's perceptions and outlook that make them young and
courageous in life. You belong to this category. I wish you luck in
finding the right mate for you. Love sets one free. A bird in a
gilded golden cage is never free. Don't be one.
But always start with friendships first. There is no such thing
as love at first sight. You MUST get to know a person well before
making that committment of a life time. And from that circle of
friends will you be able to know whom can, if not a perfect fit, at
least a fit for the roller coaster ride of your life together
as one.
Good Luck.
