The clouds in the sky are nebulous - and they pass and it is the
same with emotions - whether it is anger, love, jealousy .... they
all pass. It is impermanence.
When someone says that he/she understands one is merely reacting
to an emotion that one had experienced before in a situation or
what-have-u. In other words, one has been accumulating it in one's
psyche (mind) - now it is a hangover! Semblance of permance is
there but only in one's mind. Existentially it is not real''
However one who is being mature is cognizant of the fact
that the clouds (emotions) pass, then one is more
inclined to be responsive as opposed to reacting. One knows it will
pass.
Response is the ability to respond to what
is - eg,in a situation, an encounter, a
cirumtanstance, an emotion - one is being calm and
collected. No one is pushing buttons! One is
integrated/reconciled or one has the capacity within oneself to
intergrate/reconcile and be or do ... .
Reaction is merely impusively acting out eg , in a
situation, an encounter, a cirumtanstance, an emotion - one is
being erratic and impulsive - someone else is pushing one's
buttons. One's lack of understanding splits one on the inside
(within)