in reply to this topic.. actually it reminds me of an
article..
i will try to express the meaning, of cuz i cant rmb the exact
article..
it goes like this, the title of the article is "7 sources of
anger"
well there are many many, but one of it that leave the deepest
impression is the one that talk about how technology make
misunderstandings...
it says, according to some research, only 7% of the words used
in conversation conveys message.. the other percentage are based on
tones, facial expressions, body language, eye contact and so on..
is it that they had some machine to calculate all these? i dunno,
but what i am sure of is that during a conversation, tones and body
languages and so on are very very very important and can make a lot
of difference in the meaning u are trying to convey..
the article continues.. there was once i tried making a
delicious chilli sauce which i took many days of effort to make it,
it was my first try and i wanted others to taste it and hear their
comments.. i myself thought it was very very nice, my wife and
family members thought so too... and here i got some leftover
chilli... then i decided to SMS my friend,
to : "hey i got some leftover chilli made by me, want some? i
will bring them over if u want."
reply : "no thanks"
i interpretted this "no thanks" as sarcastic remarks of meaning
saying " eww it is leftover? not specially made for me? no man i do
not want such a thing, "THANK YOU"" i was so angry and i broke this
friendship... half a year passed and my wife saw this friend of
mine somewhere.. she clarified with this friend what he was trying
to say, and the truth is that he does not like chilli and when he
said thanks, he meant it...
now u see, a simple SMS can convey what? a 7% meaning of what u
are trying to say? sometimes things can go very wrong with a little
lacking of eye contact or body language.. etc... if u are nervous
talking to the girl u like, yet u are trying to cool urself down,
the body language tells the girl that u are trying to act cool..
well such misunderstandings can cause lots of trouble.. so
becareful not to use the wrong body signs... the article continues
to talk about the other 6 source of anger..
well it is quite true eh? however, i felt that most body
languages, eye contacts and stuff like that are the only thing u
can trust, in this modern society, words can be very deceiving...
and from those body languages, i can definitely tell who is true to
me as a friend and who is not...
o ya btw penqueen... this forum... u seldom see proper
replies... unless u are in real trouble, to me the replies in Aunt
Agony makes most sense and is most proper.. definition of proper to
me would be giving replies that makes sense... but of cuz, dont ask
stupid questions haha!
and ya.. most of the ppl in this forum is very against PAP...
well.. in my opinion PAP had done a great job in both the governing
and the sucking of _ _ _ _ _.... (fill in the blanks)
hope i dont get any trouble.. haha!
Cheers
IA
