Hi TS..
Being in the gal's situation myself and based on my gal friends'
opinions, im quite sure that she only sees you as a friend
and sees going out with a guy as no big deal.
Your persistence may or may not do you good but from what we see
now, she seems to have sensed your feelings for her even though you
dont plan to stead with her yet.
I suppose she's having less contact with you now so that you
wont think too much over a little concern for a friend (note that
gals are usually more kind-hearted than guys and more so if they
are gals from our neighbouring countries).
If she is the type who doesnt like to lose a friendship, she may
continue going out with you 1-to-1 or chatting with you on
facebook. A casual date, to a gal, doesnt mean that she likes
you more than a friend.
I must add that shy/conservative gals usually choose to withdraw
'quietly' from the guy when they are faced with such a scenario.
Some wont even tell the guy directly for fear of hurting or
embarrassing him. They just hope the guys cleverly catch the hints
to stay away. The guys then get very confused suddenly cos
they cant see what had gone wrong. Most gals dont wish to spell it
out when they reject the guy unless they seriously cant stand the
guy or the guy is too dumb to catch the hints. That's why some of
them resort to lying that they have a bf or have someone else they
fancy already. Some will use the lines, "I wish we can remain as
friends forever", "I dont wish to lose this friendship with you" or
"You make a good friend and i hope things continue this way" in
order to turn him down.
You have noticed her one-word answer when you chatted with her.
This is a common technique used to hint that she is not interested
in taking the friendship to a deeper level (at least not yet cos if
she is, she may act coy but still drop you hints to go after
her).
If she neither initiate a chat with you nor warm up to you (eg.
not keen to let you see her home/accept your jacket in the
cinema/share food with you), then take it as a cue to give up.
Whether done on purpose to impress the gal he likes or done
solely out of love for her, sweet and gentlemanly actions
certainly are sought after but too much of these at the wrong
stages can jeopardise what the guy has with her. Many things can
happen. In unfortunate cases, the gal thinks that he is
courting her when in actual fact, he isnt. She avoids him at all
cost and the poor chap loses a pure and great friendship. The gal
may also get the wrong idea that he is being too pretentious and
thus rate him poorly.
Be sensitive to her cues but dont be over-sensitive. Enjoy every
process and learn from each mistake.
i wish you the best of luck in your relationship.
