When one loves another - the usual is to 'point' one's love to another.
However, the predicament is that when the other or another is
not there or for some reason(s) makes an exit, one's love is
pointing no-where!
One misinterprets that one's love is unvalidated or
even feels unreciprocated. One feels cheated, rejected. Why? cos
one's professed love for the .... is beggarly One is
impoverished within.
One, without understanding, erroneously imbibes what is
from the outside (another/other person) and assumes that it is from within
oneself. In this instance, love from another is propping up one.
Once it is gone, one collapses. The prop is no longer
there.
However, if one has it within - that is one has abundant
love within onself; one
is overflowing, one is able to share what one is - one
shares, one appreciates. As to whether the other validates one or
reciprocates becomes irrelevant. Why? cos one is self-fulfilled, one is centred
within oneself, ie, the first ripple of love moves from the centre
of u (call it heart , soul or whatever ).
Lest it's miscontrued - my meaning of self-centredness is not
selfishness, as in being selfiish, hoarding, inconsiderate etc. I m
referring to one being 'rich', one has it
within , eg, self-love, self-respect,
self-acceptance .... One no longer seeks out ... one simply loves,
one simply shares, one simply appreciates.
Self-acceptance
is essential for love to bloom. Love starts with self-love. Instead
of being selfish one can be self-full (fulfilled in
....).
Alway, acceptance creates the milieu for love to grow. Also, a
porous ego and a little foolishness to make mistakes and a little
wisdom to avoid past errors would go a long way.
