Hi All,
I’m v bother by wat has happen to me lately…n i desperately trying
to find an ans n direction to it…i hope some of u ppl out there can
give me ur opinions on it.
My ex-gf broke up with me 7-8 mths back..her reason was being
unable to blend in with my circle of friends & not confident in
herself…which i still dun really buy..we dated for 3 yrs back
then.
I’ve learn to adjust my life back & was getting on good. then
she came knocking begging if we could patch back together. I was
happy, confuse & scared. Becoz i’m afraid she might just leave
again like she did without much explanation. however i give her an
opening to explain n worm her way back in….we went out acouple of
times, hold hands n kiss. but i still wasnt sure i wanna her back
in completely… becoz during our conversation she sometimes will
joke about buying houses & getting married etc…which make me
feel uneasy, she knew i always wanted to settle down with her back
when we are together..but i wasnt sure this time round..i needed
time to ease in.
One night when we were talking on the phone, she mention jokingly
say about getting a hse etc..then i remember seeing some of her
party pics she posted online right after we broke off with a group
of frds…guys n gals…but i some of them r quite intimate..like lying
on guys shoulder, hugging etc…then in a spur of the moment i said
whether is it because she couldnt find other better guys tatz y she
came n look for me..n ask her to go for those guys on the pics if
she is just looking at me as just spare tyre..
yes i know i’m been a jerk n mean by saying all these…but would
anyone of you will feel same as me? or is it just me?.. Anyway i’ve
apologies profusely straightaway after i said it, knowing it was
very harsh.. she took it v badly…
ok now..i feel that i may have made a bad remarks…but i still
wishes we can work things out if it’s not what i thought it is…so i
said sorry & told her we can tried to make it work again…but
she refused n got really really mad at me..saying if i really love
her i shouldn’t have said all those…i admit i make a nasty comment
but isn’t it natural for me to have these thoughts for wat had
happen to me? plus when she wanna break off with she said lots of
hurtful things to me too! n when she cant forgive me n when i
actually gave her a chance?? I wrote her an email to explain n
apologies…asking her to forgive me n start over…but she never reply
me.. i ask her on msn whether have she read it she said she was
busy so no time to read…i said if she felt that we really cannot
work out it’s fine also…just tell me n i wont bother her anymore
but she also never reply me….
so what can do? do i take it as she couldn’t be bother by my
email or she needed time to think about it….should i call her to
press for an answer? or should i wait? or she not reading my email
is an answer already? or should i just move on?
I’m deeply confuse…help….
& thanks for reading my long story…
The reason why she said she needed time to think about it is
because she is as confused as you are.
She thought that you would not treat her like this because you
have been together with her for so long in the past, and you have
been so nice to her ( You did not mention that you are a nice guy,
but I guess you are probably much better than the guys whom she
meet after you ).
Odds are she got played by a guy outside, and realised that you
are the one who is truely caring and loving to her, that is why she
came back looking for you.
Putting that aside, lets get back to you. The main question now
is whether are you able to accept her? There is no telling what she
might had done outside.
If you are able to accept her, then let her cool down for a
while before you go back and apologise to her again. If you go look
for her now while she is in such a state of mind, things are going
to get even more out of hand.
If you are not going to accept her, then forget it. Just take
her as another stranger and cut off contact with her.