Lets see things from the perspective of a 50+ year old man.
He is Singaporean. Lived his whole working life in
Singapore.
Everyday go to work, constantly under stress about livelyhood
and punctualilty.
Not much enjoyment, excitement, entertainment.
Marathon beer drinking session, girly bars, Desker Road,
Bugis Street, are all things of the youth, it all ended
when he got married and started living in a flat.
Life become humdrum, only work for income, so that the family
may eat, and keep up with the Tans (Jones) for practically the
whole of his life.
Then come this sweet young thing. Who would talk to him.
Who would not insult him, or humilate him, or challenge him or
critise him. Fair, and soft to the touch. The feeling in him is
something he had not felt in decades. Infatuated or in love, he
can't tell the difference, but anyway he does not want to lose it.
He wants to revel in it.
Him bringing her home is serious. He is not playing hankypanky
any more.
Asking him to give her up is asking him to give up the
pleasurable feeling that he has missed for years and years, and is
now having. Difficult but not impossible.
Best bet is to keep cool (with negotiation in mind).
Avoid arguments, talking sense into him, revenge, chopping etc.
Keep cool and see what he wants, and work out a settlement. He
brought the girl to the home, that shows that he is
a reasonable fellow. He is displaying his obligation to the
new found girl. So all is not lost. Safe guard yourself.
Split in anger with nothing, or splilt amicably with a
settlement.
Let him have a life. Poor fella slogged all his life, and if he
chooses to enjoy himself at the risk of his life
savings, so be it.
by bringing a mistress home, where's his respect for each and
every one of the family?