how many gf/bf's do you have before the current one ?
i've got a few, but i will never compare my current one with my
ex's when i'm with her. least of all, tell the current gf
that she is not 'the one', and that 'the one' is actually the
ex.
to me, no matter how fantastic the ex's are, they belong in the
past. unless you harbour thoughts of getting back with the
ex, which may then be deemed as 'unfaithful' to the current.
if i decide to be with the current girl, she is 'the one'.
it's basic respect. no one likes to be treated as a mistress
or concubine.
on the other hand, if your gf/bf treats you like a second best
after the ex, will you be able to accept ? do you like second
class treatment ?
it's not about love or unconditional love, for that
matter. it's basic human nature to want to be loved and
respected, to feel that you are the special one to another
person. that's the motivation to be in a relationship.