Should I still continue to live with this person?

last SG · 2009-07-11T18:25:03+00:00

urself is the farkin prob ok. truly HK deserves to be #1 SGF's fave girl!!!!!!!!!but then again, not everyone who work as admin get to go home early.some peo...

lost000 SG

closed

AEW5001 SG

r u that husband?

Cool-gal SG

mmmm, maybe he oso forgot abt the eye drop thing. and since u rem, why cant u go get it?

as for the timing, i believe shit do happens at work, so impossible to leave on time always.. esp for guys.. cos this will reflect their working attitude, unless he is super bo chup n low post staff?

i think u're over-reacting? small case la..

no offences..

dinky1409 SG

mmmm, maybe he oso forgot abt the eye drop thing. and since u rem, why cant u go get it?

as for the timing, i believe shit do happens at work, so impossible to leave on time always.. esp for guys.. cos this will reflect their working attitude, unless he is super bo chup n low post staff?

i think u're over-reacting? small case la..

no offences..

agreed

lost000 SG

ChoCoChips SG

ok lo

divorce lo

that‘s what u wan to hear right?

wan to split just go ahead, no nid come here and look for people's support.

ditzy SG

WAH LAU EH WALL OF RED TEXT!!

duanyuqiao SG

because of this kind of small problem. you want to make such a big fuss?

and duhh

wife got mouth right?

OPEN COMMUNICATION!

AEW5001 SG

for (1), this eyedrop is just a small extract of the some many daily events. It has span from wife need eyedrop, wife is sick, wife sms husband she got a bad day at work, and many many more.

E.g. wife sms husband she got a bad day. husband replied to ask what happen. wife felt that difficult to sms so did not reply. husband will never ask about this event ever and forever.

for (2), it is everyday affair that husband tells wife at the 11th hour So what is the wife suppose to do if husband just says I need to work late today?

If husband tells wife earlier, wife could have plan her own dinner and after work activity.

The point is, can the wife can take when when this happen everyday? No mather how many times wife has told husband that she dislike such last min notification, husband still repeat them.

Can this wife take it and live with this husband forever??

if u choose not to care, wat's e pt of being together?

Fugazzi SG

Aiyah the problem is not lack of care, the problem is lack of self-love , if One is incapacitated and is immobile - its understandable lar. My intution tells me its more than what has been let out here.

Well, no one is privy to what transpires between two persons behind closed doors- SELF-honesty is what is essential to face what is and resolve ... or delude oneself or even point the fingers to ....

One last thing - getting 'lost' in roles is one's undoing !

Meat Bao SG

I think you need to convey these concerns to your husband.....and maybe he can call you/ SMS you earlier.....

And about the other things....those kinds of things may be related to personality, Im not sure you can change him much....it depends, perhaps you can communicate your disappointment and maybe he change a little, but I think it's something deeply ingrained as a personality trait.

Pitot SG

wtf is wrong with you? U marry a husband or a baby sitter?

Be more direct instead of beating around the bush and smacking mosquitoes.

Perhaps it might help you in life.

Cool-gal SG

u shd have noe tat he is such bo chup person ma...

be proactive lor...

lost000 SG

laurence82 SG

yeah, and i wonder why girls want a difficult life, pointless isnt it?

Babelfish SG

wife did open her mouth and told husband about all these care and gesture she needs.

but H always repeat and his reply to W is sorry i forgot.

eyedrop, bad day at work and always notify at 11th hour are among thosands of things, just to name a few. When all these "small issues" add up to everyday for 5years, what is it becoming of?

Do not beat around bush, open mouth>Guys will of course prefer girls to do that. Reason very simple, guys do not need to think and be stressed, guys just want an easy life.

stop whining and open ur mouth to talk! u think ur husband has telepathy meh..

Fugazzi SG

Its apparent that you are looking for meaning in life, in relationship, in marriage and what-have-you. It smacks of scarcity consciousness.

Simply put - you can leave the 'marriage' - it makes no difference - the next one is also doomed lar - did u look at what you are? - u would suck the soul out of another and it would persist and it will probably end when u know that you are self-fulfilled and can relate. Otherwise, this same blame game and most of all getting caught in the rt/wrong of things will never end.

I m not supporting what your spouse is - i comment on what i read here from you.

lost000 SG

mlmersrlosers SG

he has a prc mistress

EtherealLife SG

mayb wad ts means is..

the wife who has needs such as attention(listening ear), concern & emotional connection with e husband.. n e basics of spending time tgt

on e other hand e husband does not show a hint of concern even when she is feeling sad/down, in pain or having some problems to confide in. worse mayb e husband is not detailed oriented and not considerate enough to inform e wife about his wrking schedule?

according to ts there is also communication btw them right? however its one sided with e husband choosing nt to be troubled by her prbs?

Ts mayb e husband could be too stressed at work to "bandwith" for e wife's prbs?

jus some 5 cents worth =) im no where near marriage..